Mike Domitrz argues that nervousness about asking someone out stems from fearing awkwardness. Most people aren't naturally smooth. Own your awkwardness early, he says, and you'll have better interactions and a better life.
If I'm nervous about asking, wouldn't I be nervous about going for it too? Why would they not be nervous about going for it, but they are nervous about asking? Because it's going to be weird, it's going to be awkward, it's going to ruin the moment. That kind of a fear? Okay, so let's go there, because you're right, a lot of people have that fear. Here's what's funny about that. That implies you actually think you're smooth. Are we as smooth as we wish we were? Let's be honest. Are most people as smooth as they wish they were? Yes or no? No. The sooner you recognize you are awkward and own it, the better off your life will be.
