Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Lead with curiosity instead of judgement!

3 Aug 2023 · 1 min

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In this brief segment from Mike Domitrz’s YouTube talk, the speaker emphasizes the importance of leading conversations with curiosity rather than judgment. He contrasts two mental frames: a judgmental stance (“how dare they”) that shuts down understanding, and a curious stance (“how could they think that way?”) that invites exploration of others’ perspectives. By adopting curiosity, listeners can better understand where others are coming from, fostering more constructive dialogue and avoiding the dead‑end of blame. The speaker suggests that consistently choosing curiosity can make a huge difference in personal and professional interactions.

And so this leads to the second part of this. It's critical. Lead with curiosity. And we talk about this all the time, Josh. People go, how could they think that way? How about if you had asked it this way? Huh, I wonder how they could think that way. That gets me thinking curiously where they're coming from versus how dare they. How dare they never gets us anywhere. So lead with that curiosity can make a huge, huge difference.