When you see a friend in danger at a party, grab 3 or 4 people and make a clear commitment to back each other up. Saying you'll help means nothing if you don't actually show up when it matters. Too many people abandon their friends in crisis.
Now, how do we intervene? That's the good news. You're at a party because you're with friends. You might have just met them, but you're gaining friends. Might be roommates. You walk up to 3 or 4 friends and be like, hey, can you back me up? Instantly your friends are like, let's go. You don't even know what you're backing up. I don't care. Let's go. By the way, if you've got these friends in your life, just say, got 'em. Got 'em. Some of you are like, I am that friend. Yes. Here's the question. Have you told the people here you're that person? Have you verbally— I see a bunch of you going, I'm doing it right now. I am. I got your back. Yeah. Here's the deal. Then you better have their back. What do I mean by that? How many agree a lot of friends in high school, and you'll see it in college too, they come and try to help Aaron. Aaron doesn't want their help. Aaron's out of control. And they say screw it and leave Aaron. Does that stuff happen? Yes or no? Yes. Yes. Then don't say you had their back.
