Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Making plans is not consent. #centerforrespect #mikedomitrz #problem

2 Jun 2025 · 0 min

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In this brief monologue, the speaker addresses a common misunderstanding about sexual consent within long‑term relationships. He illustrates the scenario where a partner promises a night of intimacy, but later, when the moment arrives, the other partner is asleep or otherwise not willing. The speaker emphasizes that such prior plans or expectations do not constitute consent; consent must be given actively and in the moment. The key message is that consent is a present, ongoing agreement, not a pre‑arranged plan.

If you've ever been in a long-term relationship, if you've ever been married, you've had a partner say, tonight, honey, I'm— we're gonna have some fun, we're gonna— and 1 hour later, asleep. If you've been there, say, been there. Yeah, because that's not consent. They were, they were hoping, they were at the time, and then things changed. Because that's called making plans, not consent. Huge difference. It must be in the moment.