When a partner says they can't control themselves sexually, that's a predatory excuse, not your problem. A simple no needs no justification. Look them in the eye and tell them their lack of control is their issue to fix.
Now most people, when you say stop or no, you said earlier, will say why or why not. What should be your answer? It's actually a very simple one. Because I said no. I don't owe you an excuse because I didn't know you. Remember we talked about that? So I said no. That's all I need to have said here. So that's really important, guys. Every now and then you'll get a partner who does this. Well, I can't control myself. It's possible that a partner will use that as an excuse when you say stop, that they can't control themselves. You think that's out in the world? Yes or no? Yes. They would be identifying themselves as a predator. If you wrote down on a paper somebody can't control themselves in a sexual situation alone with another human being, you'd all be like, well, that sounds like a predator. So it's never a legit excuse. And if somebody ever does say that to you, look them in the eyes and go, not my problem.
