Instead of making excuses when you decline something, say "not for me, not who I am." The speaker argues that stating your identity shuts down argument because nobody can dispute who you are, while excuses just invite pushback.
How many agree not having an excuse and just owning who you are is not someone who stands by while others are harmed is the best answer you could ever get? It's just who you are. Agree that's powerful? Just say powerful. By the way, somebody tries to get you to do something this weekend you don't want to do, use the same mindset. Watch this. I'm not going to give them excuse like, no, I don't want to get in trouble, I need to get to bed. I'm just going to look at them and go, not for me, not who I am. Ends the conversation. They can't argue with me over who I am. But if I say things like, well, I don't want to get in trouble, they'll say, we won't get in trouble. They'll counter-argue that, right? So owning who you are is really important here.
