Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Porn can teach unrealistic expectations.

13 Mar 2024 · 1 min

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In this brief monologue, the speaker argues that healthy dating should be enjoyable but not constantly sexy and passionate as portrayed in Hollywood movies or pornography. He labels both media forms as unrealistic, performance‑based depictions that mislead viewers into believing they represent real relationships. Because the brain treats these portrayals as normative, people may try to emulate them with real partners, leading to inauthentic interactions and unhealthy dynamics. The speaker concludes that neither Hollywood nor porn are good resources for learning about dating.

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Should healthy dating be fun? Yes or no? Yes. Is it always going to be sexy and passionate like you see it in film? No. No. That's called either Hollywood or porn. One of the two. Are either good resources, by the way? No, they're not. Because what are they both? They're highly unrealistic and they're performance-based. So that means you're watching something that you think is real that isn't real. Your brain doesn't know that. And your brain watches them and goes, that's how it's supposed to work. That's how it's supposed to sound. That's how they're supposed to act. And then you get with a real partner who's going, excuse me? Right? Or they're trying to act all that out and nobody's being real. Either way, it's not a healthy situation.