Mike Domitrz argues that real confidence in romantic situations means asking directly for what you want, not playing games. People who fear awkwardness avoid asking. The truly confident ones own their awkwardness and aren't afraid of any answer.
If you're afraid of being awkward, you will never be sexually active because it's part of the equation. How many agree making out in 1 second can go awkward? Agree that's true? Say that's true. That's true. Yes. But every now and then I meet someone like, but Mike, you don't know me. I've got game. Yeah. Whenever someone says that to me, I look them right in the eyes and I go, I'm sorry you need it. See, when you tell me you've got game, what you're telling me is who you are isn't good enough. So you have to play a game to get what you want. I wouldn't be bragging. Here's the epitome of confidence. There's 2 different people. One person, they're awkward, they know it, they own it. That's confidence. Then the second person, they don't feel awkward, they do feel confident, and they are, and they're not arrogant. Now what's fascinating? They both ask all the time. Why? Neither fears the answer. They're okay with whatever the answer is because that's what confidence looks like.
