Mike Domitrz explains that no one owes sexual intimacy to anyone, ever. His approach: look them in the eye, smile, ask. Then respect their answer without asking why. He says people constantly push back on no instead of accepting it.
Do you ever owe someone sexual intimacy? Yes or no? No. Never. I don't care how long you've been with them. I don't care how popular they are. I don't care if they're older. I don't care how much money they've spent on you. I don't care how much you love them. You never owe. You never ever owe. So this is really important. So number 1, look them in the eyes. Number 2, smile. Number 3, ask the question. Of course, if you're gonna ask the question, you're gonna respect the Answered. Is our world good at this one, yes or no? No. No, it's not. We'll prove it. You say no to a partner. They're asking if they can have sex or be intimate with you, and you say, not tonight. Do most partners go, okay, glad I asked? Instead, what 1 or 2 words is that partner about to ask you? Why or why not? By the way, same words I hear everywhere in the world, starting with middle schools. 13-year-old audiences yell, I will hear why or why not if I say no to sexual intimacy. Wow.
