Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Set your boundaries. #centerforrespect #mikedomitrz #boundaries #dating #safespace

10 Dec 2024 · 1 min

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In this segment, the speaker warns that many people begin dating before they feel confident establishing personal boundaries, which can leave them vulnerable to partners who exploit them sexually, emotionally, or otherwise. The speaker explains that such predatory behavior often goes unnoticed by the person being targeted. To protect themselves, the speaker advises individuals to practice saying "no" to any level of intimacy—starting with a kiss—if they feel uncomfortable, and to be equally comfortable hearing a "no" from a partner. The core message is that if you cannot comfortably assert or respect boundaries, you are not ready to date.

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So one of the biggest mistakes people make is they start dating before they feel confident about declaring their boundaries. So what happens is you have partners who see that opportunity and think, oh, I can get what I want from this person sexually, intimately, whatever else, emotionally. And so what happens is that person is being preyed on by their dating partners and they're totally not aware of it, of what's happening. So the first thing I would say to people is if somebody asks you for a kiss, are you comfortable? Somebody you are attracted to. Yeah. Somebody that maybe you look up to on a date, are you comfortable saying, no, not tonight? If they ask you for more than a kiss, are you comfortable saying, you know what, I was good with kissing, I'm not comfortable with that? If you're not comfortable saying no to a partner, it's not time to date yet. You want to be really comfortable to say no. And here's the other part of this. You want to be really comfortable hearing no.