Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

Teach kids it is HEALTHY to say, 'NO.'

28 Aug 2023 · 1 min

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In this segment of the YouTube video, the presenter explains that the primary reason teens hesitate to say no to sex is the fear of disappointing their partner. He emphasizes that this fear stems from a broader cultural lesson—often taught by parents—that refusing is "mean." The speaker invites the audience to reflect on who imparts this lesson, confirming that parents are the main source. He acknowledges his own parenting mistakes and stresses that parents share responsibility for this dynamic, but he urges a shift away from shame and guilt toward teaching children that saying no is healthy and acceptable.

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The number one reason teens are afraid to say no to sex is they don't want to disappoint their partner. That's actually it. That's the number one reason. They say it over and over again to me. They don't want to disappoint their partner. Think about that. They're admitting they don't want to do this, but they think their partner's feelings are more important than theirs because someone, someone in life taught those children that saying no was mean. Now, this is a tough one to talk about. Because who most likely taught a child that saying no is mean? Who most likely taught a child that lesson? Go ahead, type it in the chat. Who do you think most likely taught that lesson? Yes, it is parents. And that's not for any of us to feel shame or guilt, just like I don't want the kids to feel shame or guilt. I said I've been a parent and I made— I've made all these mistakes myself, but parents are as guilty about this as anybody.