Teens ask about consent when you change sexual acts?

Today's question uses language that some might consider more mature language, but we're gonna get right into this, and here is today's question. Mike, what about more advanced sexual activity like oral sex? When is it consent? When is it not? When would it be sexual assault? How does that work? Now, if you're listening to this thinking, Mike, I don't fully understand the question, keep in mind that I'm getting these questions from teenagers, and these are questions I've had before. So this one I've heard before, and so I've been able to follow up on that. and be able to answer this one. This idea of when is it consent or not consent, and this is really what we find the teenagers are referring to in this moment. When the sexual activity shifts from one sexual act to a different sexual act, is that still consensual? That is typically what the question that I just asked actually is referring to. Now, I gave it to you the way I did because teenagers often ask it that way, and we're just trying to stay so that you, if you hear the question, you can understand it. And relate to it there. And if you're a teenager, that you can relate to it also. So let's go right into this. Mike, what if I agreed to this sexual intimacy over here, but now we're suddenly doing this? At what point is it sexual assault? Consent is ongoing and in the moment. And in another video, I actually defined consent, right? There was— it's an agreement that should be mutual and enthusiastic. Which means if I mutually agree to touching you this way and we agree that we're going to do this touching or fondling, that does not mean that I've mutually agreed to the next sexual act you want because I agreed to this sexual act. Not how it works at all. It means I agreed to that, that we agreed to. And if you want to engage in further sexual activity with me, different sexual acts with me, then you need to check in with me before assuming that. You need to make sure this is something we both wanna do, that it's mutual. That's the key part here. Now, there's a million ways you can learn how to have these conversations. These are short, quick videos, but there's a million skill sets, and we teach them in our work, especially when we're working with audiences that want us to have that conversation. Sometimes high schools want us to have those more advanced conversations. Universities sometimes do. Military sometimes does. So it just depends, organizations. There are ways to have those conversations, but please know that this idea that I said yes and then it led to here means I have to do this, right? No, you don't have to. Absolutely. It's for you to have choice. Really super important. Agreement to this sexual act does not mean agreement to all sexual acts or even an additional sexual act. You agreed to that. Really important question, and that's today's discussion. Thank you, Mike.