The bystander effect isn't psychology, it's an excuse. The speaker argues that if Aaron, someone you love, were in danger, you'd push through a crowd to help. The difference between helping and not helping isn't the crowd. It's whether you decide to care.
That's what the bystander effect says. If no one was around, I would do something. However, if I walk into that same setting and there's a party going on, a group of people watching the same thing happen, and nobody's doing anything, I also will not do anything because nobody else is doing anything. Why it's a fail, because I can prove it wrong every single time. If Aaron was your loved one, do you do whatever it takes to break through that crowd to get to Aaron? Yes or no? So there's no such thing as a bystander effect. There's only when we choose not to care enough about a human being. That's the truth. Because here's the only difference in those 2 scenes. I chose to care on one. I didn't choose to care on the other. But wow, does it sound nicer to say the bystander effect. Like, I didn't have any choice. Well, the bystander effect. No, you made a choice. So the bystander effect is a reason people use to not follow their core values.
