Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

The Importance of Proper Communication.

21 Dec 2023 · 1 min

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In this segment of a YouTube talk, the speaker argues that the absence of complaints in a long‑term marriage is not evidence of perfect communication but rather a warning sign that one partner does not feel safe voicing concerns. He frames complaints as essential feedback that drives personal growth and relationship improvement, likening the process to stage performance where post‑show critiques help performers avoid repeating mistakes. The core message is that healthy communication requires an environment where honest grievances can be expressed without fear.

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How many agree there are people that in their marriage go, we got great communication? And then you pause and go, oh, so you talk about what you like, how you like it, what you don't like that they're doing? And they're like, whoa, whoa, whoa, don't go too far. But I thought you said, can you communicate? And here's what they do. Well, no one's complaining. I mean, we've been together 30 years. That's your standard? By the way, if no one's complaining, someone doesn't feel safe talking, probably, because complaints are how we learn, how we become better human beings. I've learned more from the stage by what somebody complained about afterwards. And said, oh, I don't ever want to do that again, and I learned from it. So we want to actually have that.