Peer pressure isn't really about other people. It's self-imposed: you're choosing to meet expectations because you want to be liked or fit in. Recognizing it as self-pressure gives you back control over why you're actually doing something.
Here's how peer pressure is defined. Ready? It's either to be liked or to be like. That means I'm changing my decision-making so they like me, to be liked, or I'm changing my decision-making to be liked by them. It was never peer pressure. It was me wanting to be like or to be liked. How many agree that's true? Say that's true. Anybody that tells you there's a lot of peer pressure in high school, say why are you feeling the pressure to be like others? 'Cause we're doing it to ourselves. If I call it self-pressure, I can own it and go, why am I doing this to myself? If I call it peer pressure, I think I have no control 'cause it's my peers and I can't control them. I'd rather have control over this.
