Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

The reason why society stops people from asking.

28 May 2024 · 1 min

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In this brief monologue, the speaker argues that the primary reason people avoid asking for what they need is that they have never been taught how to ask. He points out that television, film, music, and especially schools rarely model the act of asking, so individuals lack a clear example of what asking looks like. The speaker highlights the disconnect between advice to "just ask" and the absence of demonstrated behavior, noting that this gap leads to hesitation and inaction. He calls for explicit demonstrations of asking in educational and media contexts to address the problem.

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What's the real reason people don't ask? Ready? Here it is. It's a simple one. We never taught you how. That's it. How many agree that if you grew up in a world where all TV, film, movie scenes showed asking, you'd be trying asking? If the music industry reflected asking, you'd be trying asking. How many agree we reflect what we typically see? Agree that's true? Say that's true. So we haven't seen it done. This is a big problem in high schools when they tell you, well, just ask, but then don't ever show what that looks like. Everybody sits in the classroom going, sounds nice, no one's going to do it. That's what happens. So we need to see what it looks like.