Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

The Spectrum of Sexual Activity Nobody Is Talking About

18 May 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief presentation, the speaker introduces a conceptual spectrum of sexual activity, positioning sexual assault (no consent) at the lowest end and enthusiastic consent at the highest. He argues that consent should be understood not as a lofty standard but as a bare‑minimum requirement—a foundational baseline. By reframing consent this way, the speaker suggests that many people mistakenly treat consent as the ultimate ethical benchmark; when they fall short of higher relational or emotional standards they may still have consent, but the interaction is less than ideal. The talk’s purpose is to shift listeners’ perception of consent from an absolute ceiling to a starting point for healthier sexual behavior.

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This is a slope of sexual activity. We have worst case down here, we have best case up there. What do you think's worst case involving sexual activity? All right, so I heard assault, I heard not consent, which would be assault, right? So everybody's saying assault. By the way, correct, it would be sexual assault, which by the way can lead to things like murder. It does happen, it has happened. What do you think could that possibly be? The extreme opposite of sexual assault involving sexual activity? Enthusiastic consent. Right, so consent is up there, Halfway. Now, here's why consent is only halfway up there. Consent's only halfway up there because consent is not a standard of excellence. Consent is a bare minimum requirement. That is a massive shift in how many people think about it. Many people think consent is the almighty. The problem with that belief is that if you fall short, and you think it's up there, and you fall short, you've got a sexual assault. But if you realize it's only the beginning, and there's something else, and I fall short of that, I still have consent. So it's a much better place to be.