Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

The Truth About “Good Families” No One Admits

15 Apr 2026 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker examines how many traditional cultures prioritize strict rule‑following and instill a deep fear of parental disapproval. This dynamic leads individuals, especially victims of inappropriate touching or abuse, to stay silent rather than seek help. The speaker argues that cultural shame—rooted in the belief that being at a risky situation implies personal fault—creates a barrier to reporting abuse to parents or authorities. While acknowledging that not all cultures operate this way, the speaker emphasizes that this pattern is common in many traditional societies and highlights its harmful impact on victims who lack support.

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In many traditional cultures, we have rules and nobody breaks the rules, right? And you feared breaking the rules, so therefore you followed, just like you fear your parents. Not saying that's the case as much anymore, but it was. You feared your parents. Now the danger in that is you didn't talk to anybody about these things. So if something did happen, did you get support and help? Think about it. If somebody was at a friend's house and another person was there, and let's say they touched them inappropriately, did you go to your parents and tell them? In most other traditional cultures, You keep that quiet because you shouldn't have been at the party and you must have done something wrong for that to happen. This is true. We're not saying your culture because I don't know everybody's culture in the room, right? We're talking generally from tradition, right? And so that's really important to understand this.