Kids typically find pornography around age 11 or 12. Parents who talk about sex and sexual decisions before that happens stay trusted advisors instead of being sidelined. Your child's discomfort during the conversation means you're doing it right.
A bunch of you already quoted another expert you heard that said they saw porn at what age? 11 to 12 is what we typically hear. So if they start to see it, do they start to try to figure it out in their head? Doesn't mean they're engaging in anything, doesn't mean they're pursuing it, but are they trying at least curiosity, trying to figure this thing out potentially? Yes or no? Yes. Yes. So you are not bringing this into their world. You're not, unless you're having the conversations earlier so you are the one bringing it into their world, which by the way would be brilliant. Because the longer you bring it— wait to bring it in, you're no longer the expert. And if you bring it in at a point they're uncomfortable with it, you are doing great. Because that means you're ahead of the curve, right? So if I say to my kids and I go, hey, we're going to have this conversation, we're talking about sexual decision-making, and they're like, oh, I don't want to hear it, I don't want to hear it, and I can see they're that uncomfortable, inside I'm like, yes, right? Because they're not as far ahead as maybe we might have thought they were.
