A partner's repeated look might mean something different each time, but 85% of people say no and only two say yes, both men. The speaker explores why men are more likely to assume a look means the same thing every time, suggesting it feels safer to believe in consistency than to wonder what actually changed.
It was a Friday night or any night you want to choose, and your partner gave you a look that led to exactly what you wanted to have happen. It was wonderful. Saturday night, the next night, they gave you the exact same look again. Did it necessarily mean they wanted the exact same thing as the night before? Yes or no? No. Now I want you to notice what just happened. There was an 85% no and 2 people said yes. That happens, by the way. Did anybody notice vocal differences in the 2 people who said yes and everybody who said no? What gender appeared to say it meant the same thing both all the time? Men. It did appear to be people— it did. So, usually if we're going to hear, yes, it means the same thing, it is often from somebody who identifies as a man. Now, why might that be the case? Uh, it feels safer to think, of course they want the same thing because I pursued the same thing, so then I didn't do anything wrong. So it's easier for me to feel safe about myself if I yell that. Yeah, good answer.
