Mike Domitrz explains why people drink before sex: to lower inhibitions, create an excuse for uncomfortable choices, and numb sensations that feel threatening. What feels like pleasure, he argues, is often just relief from discomfort.
Every single time you tell a soldier alcohol lowers inhibitions, you just increase the rate of drinking Friday night. Nobody wants to be inhibited. But you say it lowers standards and they're like, no, it doesn't. They get defensive because they like their standards. Here's why they combine it so much. Because they're bad at sex. People use alcohol and sex when they're not comfortable with the sex. So I turn to alcohol for one of two reasons. One, because then I'm not aware of what's happening, so I have an excuse for what I'm doing. 2, I can use an excuse against my friends when I make these choices while I was drinking, right? 3, I'm not gonna feel everything. By the way, you will hear people say after a few drinks, the sex is a whole lot better. You just realize you said out loud, when you're numb, the sex is a whole lot better. You might not want to be bragging, but people do that. So people turn to alcohol and sex because they're not comfortable with sex. So I'm using this tool that I think will help.
