You don't have to process trauma alone. The speaker argues that internalizing emotional pain is self-cruelty and that confronting discomfort through self-reflection, rather than acting it out, is how you actually heal. Seeking external support matters.
One of the cruelest things you could ever do to yourself is try to handle trauma, pain internally all by yourself. It's cruel. So I highly advocate and encourage people, if any struggles are going on, when you leave the room, challenge yourself. If you're uncomfortable, why am I uncomfortable? Instead of acting out or talking out, what about this, right? That makes it more powerful.
