Mike Domitrz argues you don't owe anyone a reason when you say no. He offers blunt responses like "Because I said so" and "What part of no don't you understand?" while acknowledging that fear of violence sometimes limits how safely you can refuse.
You're taught that from a young age, that if you say no to someone sexually, not only will it be respected and valued, it'll be questioned and challenged. If somebody says why to you, you don't owe them an answer, 'cause that implies you owe again. You want a great answer when somebody says why? 'Cause I said so. Heck yeah. Or I know people do this. What part of no did you not understand? What part of stop do you not understand? That's empowering you. Now, I know some people go, well, if I did that, I'd be fear of violence. I'm saying when you're able to. Everybody's gonna be in different situations, and I'm not giving you a playbook that's gonna work all the time. We don't wanna shame or guilt anybody. For choices in these situations. That's super important to understand.
