Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

You never owe anyone your body

5 Jun 2025 · 1 min

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In this YouTube monologue, speaker Mike Domitrz addresses students about sexual consent and bodily autonomy. He emphatically states that no one ever owes anyone sexual activity, images, or videos, regardless of relationship length, popularity, or age differences. He then explores why many people feel guilty saying no, noting that the primary reason is the fear of disappointing the other person. Domitrz reframes disappointment as a healthy sign of living one’s own life, arguing that constantly trying to please others leads to a miserable existence. The talk encourages listeners to set clear boundaries, accept that they will disappoint others, and recognize that doing so is essential for authentic, healthy living.

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Do you ever owe sexual activity, sexual imagery, sexual videos, photos? Do you ever owe? Yes or no? No. Never. Never. I don't care how popular they are. I don't care how long you two have been together. I don't care how far you've gone previously sexually that night or other nights before. You don't owe. I don't care if they're a senior and you're a freshman. You don't owe. But then some students go, Mike, I know I don't owe. I know, I get that. But I still feel bad saying no. Why do people feel bad saying no? The number one answer people say yes when they want to say no. I don't want to disappoint the other person. By the way, are you going to disappoint people in your life? Yes. Yes. In fact, I'm going to tell you something people don't normally say. If you're not disappointing people in life, you're probably having a miserable life. If you're not disappointing— let me explain why. If I'm doing what everybody else wants to keep them happy, whose life am I living? Theirs or mine? Theirs. Theirs. When you disappoint people, it means you're living your life. That's actually healthy.