Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

You never owe intimacy to anybody. #centerforrespect #mikedomitrz #Initmacy #respect

2 Sept 2024 · 1 min

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In this concise video, Mike Domitrz addresses a common misconception about sexual consent by stating unequivocally that no one ever owes another person sexual intimacy. He explains that a demand for sexual activity is inherently wrong because a demand implies an entitlement that cannot exist without a prior owed relationship. Domitrz dismisses arguments that long-term relationships, financial investment, prior sexual encounters, or hierarchical positions (such as senior‑junior dynamics on a campus) create any obligation to provide sexual intimacy. The core message is that consent must always be freely given, and any demand violates that principle.

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Hey, give me a kiss. Whoa! By the way, does that stuff happen? Are there people that make demands like that with more advanced sexual activity? Like, do this, do this to me. Do people do that? Yes or no? Is it okay? Here's why it is never okay. That's called a demand. A demand implies you owe me, because you can never demand something of someone they don't owe you. So here's the question of the day. Do you ever owe a human being sexual intimacy? Yes or no? Never, no matter how long you've been together, no matter how much money they've spent on you, no matter how far you've gone with this person earlier in the night or previously, no matter how— if they're a senior and you're new to campus, you never owe sexual intimacy.