Mike DomitrzPresident, Author, and Speaker on Respect, The Center for Respect, Inc. · Author & Speaker on Respect for Schools, Corporations, & the Military since 1990 (has reached

You owe them nothing! #centerforrespect #mikedomitrz #protectyourenergy #healthyboundaries

19 Nov 2024 · 1 min

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In this brief monologue, the speaker asserts that when someone has caused you harm, you are not obligated to provide them with closure or a response. They explain that ghosting a harmful person is a legitimate boundary practice and that apologies from the harmed party do not automatically require acceptance. The speaker emphasizes that trying to control another person's reaction to an apology is unhealthy, reinforcing the principle of personal responsibility for one’s own emotional well‑being and the importance of respecting others' autonomy in how they process harm.

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If you ghost somebody because they've harmed you, you don't owe them closure when they've harmed you. How many agree? If you do something to truly harm me, I don't owe you a response. Now, we might not like not getting the response, but I have to understand I caused that. That makes sense? Say, makes sense. It does make sense. Do I wish you could have closure for both of you? I do, but it's not going to happen. By the way, if your friend says, I'm sorry, does that mean that you're going to accept it all the time? No. Well, I apologized. Yeah, but it's up to them whether they accept it or not. You're trying to control their response. That is not okay.