Keepin' It Real - Q&A Living in Mexico | Episode Eight

It's groove, baby. I know you know this song. Let's dance just a little bit. Little groove before we chat. Anything. Maybe just your head bobs. I don't give a. Just move something. The more your body you put into it, the better you'll feel like. Get your arms in it, your head, your spine, your booty. I told you, we go and groove every time. Just for a minute. And I promise I'll always give you good music. Oh, yeah. Okay. You warmed up? I'm warmed up all right. Amazing. Happy Sunday. So, hello, welcome to episode eight of my little Keeping It Real Jungle series that I'm doing here that I don't know how it came about, but it's coming about and we're just doing, doing it. We are on episode eight, I believe. So we're picking up from last week. Those of you guys that joined me, family. Carrie, Cindy, Kaho, Manu Manul, thank you for being here and I hope I see you every week. So last week there were two things I told you I was going to talk about this week and I can only choose one. So last week we were talking about how during the midst of when I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me and all of this at the same time, my business partner completely frauded me out of my business. That story and how I got it back and what I did and all the magic that came about with that. And the second one is how I learned to start to make sweet, delicious love to myself. Like really sensual, sexual love to myself and what that did for me and the magic that it created in my life. So you're gonna have to stay tuned next week for the sexual stuff because this week we're gonna cover so I don't have to jump back in my story. So now we're the parallel of last week, what's going on? So let's jump right in. If this is your first episode, you can go light reel and you can watch all the back episodes. Starting with how I bought my land in Mexico and all the legality shit. And then we started getting into the juicy of how I made my money and how I built my dream home in the jungle and turned my life around and all the things that I did and what transpired. I was so lost in love, like I said, so backing up. I'm madly in love with this man in Mexico. I'm traveling, I'm promoting the Groove Method. And I was working so hard and so many people were interested, but I knew I couldn't do both things. I couldn't travel the world full time teaching and giving people this dance experience all around the world and build the business at the same time and have this love relationship that was consuming my other part of my life. And so one day, I was invited to go to Canada to present the Groove Method for children that was in schools. Because this is the Groove works magically with children because we're not teaching them, trying to teach them someone else's dance. We actually teach them how to dance their dance. And it's dope to watch. So I got invited to go into the schools and do some presentations in the schools. And the girl that set that up, she just loved it. She. She'd seen me at a conference, and she was just. She worked for the government, and she was like. Like, this has to be everywhere. Like, this method is like, of course this is how we should be dancing together. Like, it all makes sense. And. And she knew the power it would have with kids. So I come to Canada, and now keep in mind, I don't have lots of extra money. So she asked to host me, which means I could stay at her house, and she would take care of me. And a lot of times I had to do that. I slept on couches. The first few years of trying to build this movement was like, I was. But I knew this is what I had to do in my life. And at that point, I wasn't thinking so much about the money. I was just thinking about, I have to get this message out. I have to give people this dance experience because I know what it can do for them. And this is my. This is what I know my gift to the world is, is this. This is what I was born to do, is this Groove Method thing. And it had been given to me, like, if you watch one of the past episodes, the Groove Method, this methodology that I'm doing, was given to me literally as a download while I was dancing. Like, I was told exactly what to do, what it was called, what its foundation, what the method is. Like, the whole thing was just like, here, Misty. This is your dharma. Go and do it. And I did. So. But for the first, probably 10, 15 years, it was sleeping on sofas, traveling the world, like, you know, just taking any. Like, anyone that wanted to have me, I was there, and I would make accommodation however I needed to, even if it meant slipping on their couch to make that shit happen for years. So I'm in Canada, staying at her place, and I just. I open up to her, and I'm just like, you know, I'm Exhausted, Like, I need to build the business. But I. I'm at this. I'm at this kind of breaking point that I don't know what I'm gonna do. And she's like, well, this is kind of what I do. I love what you do. I had just presented in the schools, the teachers, everyone was just like, what is this? And by the way, since that moment of me going to the schools, we ended up having teams of facilitators going into schools, and they've grooved over a million children in Canada. Like, every school wanted it. They're like, what is this thing? The kids are raving about it. It was helping with the clicks and the kids judging each other because of what we showed them in Groove about, that everyone should be unique and different. Like, you shouldn't dance like someone. Don't try to copy someone. That's not cool. It's when you're original and you're authentic. That's when it's cool. And those are the people that set the trends, are the people that are authentic and original, right? And then everyone just copies them. Isn't that the truth? And it's sad. Like, we all want to have the hair like so and so, or the clothes like so and so, or the bling bling like so and so. It's like, all that. And this is what we teach the kids. And then we have them apply it to dance. Like, you should dance your own dance, man. And they get it. Kids are smart. So anyways, back to the story. I just love talking about groove because groove is so freaking cool. And so she said, I would love to help you. I believe in this. And I really think that, like, every school needs this. I'm behind you 100%. And so we had started to develop a friendship, and. And we decided to go into partnership, that she would build the business, you know, build the website, help me design the training systems based off my method, how we would, you know, just all of it, the copywriting, the trademarking that, all of it. And she would handle all that. And I would go and I would fill the trainings, and I would build the movement and get the message out about this. So we both had our roles, and I just trusted her 1,000%. 1,000%. Like, I didn't even question it. Just like, absolutely. This woman believes in it. And mind you, at the same time, every conference I went to, there would be someone that would come up to me after one of my presentations, and with just come up and be like, I. I want to help you like, I want to learn how to teach this. I want to. I want to. Do you have master trainers? I want to be one of your master trainers. And so these are. These other women that came forward are still my master trainers to this day. Okay, so. And we're talking, like, 12 years ago right now. Like, they've been with me along, some of them, 15 years. Like, some of the most lovely, powerful women that I'm so blessed to have in. In my business, and they're still with me today. So she's one of these people. I trusted her. Didn't question it. But what was interesting is, at the same time, I talk about my mom, and my mom's this powerful astrologer and tarot reader, and she's just a wise woman. And so I decided. I contacted my mom, and I said, mom, would you do her astrology for me? And she's like, sure. So she came to visit me in Los Angeles. I took her to my mom's house. My mom did her reading. My mom was acting a little off. Kind and lovely, but was a little off. And I was like, okay. And then right when we went to leave, my mom takes me, and she goes, misty, you do whatever you need to do, but I'm going to tell you something. With this girl, what you see is not what you get. And she said, when that girl walked into my house, the hair on the back of my neck stood up, and I was just hit with this brick. And I was like, mom, I'm already in business with her. I had already signed an agreement. And she's like, you have to do what you have to do. And I was desperate at the time, and I felt like I could trust her. You know, I just. But my mom warned me. And just so you know, anyone I go into business with, all of my master trainers, anyone that works with me, I contact my mom, and I have her do a reading on them. I want to know how they tick, what they operate from. They're like, what do they need? All they. She gives me all this information, and with their permission, like, they've all had readings with my mom. Okay? Just. And they keep having readings with my mom. They didn't just have the first. Now they're like, they talk to my mom more than I do. That's crazy. So anyways. But I was desperate. We were already in business, and. And I really was desperate. I. Like, we were already in. We'd already agreed, and we had already. She had already started building the website and trademarking and all of this, and so as this time is going by, about a year in maybe a year and a half in, she comes to me and she says for me to continue and for me to feel like I'm being validated for the work that I'm doing, I need to be listed as the co creator of this method. And this darkness, just instant black inside my body went like the biggest no in my life. But I didn't say anything and I felt it and I, because I knew it was wrong. It's like, but you didn't create the method. You're just like, you're helping me train, like, create the training systems. That's what you do. And you'll be authored as the person that did that. Like, but the method, that's like, I've been doing this shit for years. Like, this is my method, it's not yours. But that was all going on inside of me. I didn't say it, but I was desperate and I wanted to keep the ball going and we had momentum and I had, I was filling trainings. Everything was in a great place. And so I just ignored all the red flags and just kept going on. We do this in relationships, right? Those little red flags pop up and. But we're in a position, oh it, you know, it's all going to be fine or it's not that or that's going to be okay. So I said, if that is what you need to feel like you're being seen, I will do that. And I wanted to vomit when I said it. I was just like, this isn't right, but this is what she needs. And maybe it's just my ego getting in the way. Like, I don't want to give up any ownership of the method because, you know, my ego, it's mine, it's mine. So I kind of softened and was like, okay, yeah, but it's. I know it's not right. That was the first. And then about two years in, it's at the end of one of my retreats here in Tulum. I think it was like the second year I'd done a retreat here. And at the end of the retreat she's like, I need you to sign some legal documents. I was like, okay, what is it? And I didn't read them. I just trusted. I just trusted. And she just basically kind of broke it down in her way, which was, you need to sign the logo over to me and we have to put a value to it. So we're going to put $1 because for the tax reasons and how we're doing it in. In Canada. This. This entity, the corporation entity, bank account needs to own this or this. This corporation needs to own this. So we have to transfer it from you into this so that we can protect it. Like, she had whatever it was. Whatever it was, but whatever it was, I trusted her and I signed it, which mean I sold her my logo for a dollar. Yeah, I'm a smart person that does dumb shit. Like, we all do things you just want to kick yourself for and intuitively, again, felt wrong. But I trusted her and I just did it. We're probably about six months later, six, seven months later, and people are starting to tell me that have. That have attended the trainings because she was leading the trainings while I was traveling. People started to tell me, they're like, this is. Like, this isn't what you gave us. Like, what is she doing? Like, this isn't. She was. She was out there leading the trainings, and she was starting to turn it into her own thing. Not what my method was. It was the method, but she was tweaking it so that it gave the teacher, the facilitator, less freedom and more like, you have to say this, you have to do this. And I'm not about that. I'm about. My facilitators are authentic. They're all creative. They're all. They all have their own style. They all trust and honor who they are. They just use this method, and this is how it works. Like, I'm all about that. You can't make some. Like, that just doesn't make sense to me. But they were saying this, and they were like, I'm not interested if this is what this is all about. So all these people I'm promoting all around the world are starting to like Misty. I don't know. I don't like this, and I don't like her. A lot of people were saying this. I don't like her. And I was like, yeah, okay, yeah, she's my business partner. But let me look into it. I didn't look into it. I just trusted her. She was leading the trainings. I was madly in love with my man, enjoying every moment of my life, not even wanting to think about it, and just trusting she was doing it all. And I just. Nah, nah, nah, nah, nah. Like, I. Right after I had this whole thing with my lover, and I found out he was cheating on me. I'd say within about two weeks. You know, I'm. I'm having to work. Like, I still have to. Like, I'm planning my Next trip to wherever I'm going to go teach. And I go to login to the website and I can't get in. And I go to log into the Facebook, I can't get in. And I'm like, what the. So I contact her, left her a message, nothing. The next thing I get is an email from her lawyer that says, I now need to cease and desist, associating my name with the Groove Method. That she now is the sole owner of The Groove Method. A cease and desist of my method with like. So after this with my guy and then this hits, and I just. I. My whole world was just coming crumbling down. It was like, what. What am I gonna do? I'm having to jump on a flight in a couple days to go teach the Groove Method at these conferences and promote the trainings and all of this. And I'm just like, I'm lost. I'm lost. I'm in. I literally went into shock. Like, my body went into shock. I was like, how can she do this? I couldn't breathe. I was just like, how. How? Questioning God, what the fuck? You gave me this. No. How can someone take this? That's not even. I couldn't even wrap my head around it. I was just. I was struggling. I was a fucking mess. I'm screwed. Okay, anyways. And I love this. Wow. Pure evil. She should go to jail. Well, this is what's really great, because I will tell you this, it was the best thing that happened to me. I am here living my best life because of that shit. And I'll tell you, this was awesome. So anyways, how I got out of it and how I got it all back because, man, Mama won. Let me just tell you this. So I'm traveling. My friends are offering to help me. I've got another friend that lives in Denmark, and she wanted to partner. And. And I. I knew then I will never partner. Like, with this method. This I. I know now. I've been told you this is yours. You will never. No one will be your. Like you have. This is. You have to keep it pure. You have to keep it pure to what it is, and no one will ever change it. This is what it is. And that's why it's magic. So I was sure about that. But now keep in mind, while she was doing the business for two years, I was selling out trainings. And they were, you know, several hundred dollars a piece. I never received a dollar the whole time I partnered with her. And every time I asked her, like that training, like, brought in like $8,000. Like do I get any part of that? What all that money is going to all the legal stuff, all the things that we have to do. There was always an excuse, but I never received any money for those two years over my method and what I was doing just to top it all off. But thank God I was making money like with Nike and presenting, I had enough money to survive and only to survive. Let's get to the end of this part of the story because next week I got to pick up on the. The sexy time. Okay, so she, I mean I don't even know what's going on but. And I don't know what to do. The only thing I knew is that I had my email list that I had built over those years. I, as I travel and I would present, people would all come up to me and give me their email address and say, let me know the moment you have a training or you have events or you have retreats, like give, like. And so I was collecting emails all around the world, handwritten. Back then I had papers of handwritten emails and then I would enter them into my constant contact and I started develop this database. And so I sent out a letter to the database with all of the evidence, everything, the emails of our agreement, what had happened. And you know, this is what just happened to me. This girl that you all. I was, I was very just, I wasn't, I was just very matter of fact, there was no, like, she's an evil thief, none of that. It was just these are the facts, this is what has happened. So I want you guys to know that I will be like, I don't know how I'm going to rebuild, but just stay tuned like, and you need to know what happened. So don't let her deceive you into thinking that what she's doing is my me, like what I'm doing, like what where it is. And I received thousands of letters. Oh my God, I can't believe this. And she lived in Toronto and I had at least 50 facilitators in Toronto. And she couldn't like the girl couldn't walk down the street without someone being like, like what did you do? You know, kind of a thing. And so it all took, that all took care of itself and because people were pissed because they knew me and they knew where it came from. Their first experience with groove was with me. And I had told you that this heartbreak and getting over this. So now we're like five, six months in and I started dancing again. I Was told that I needed to dance. So I went and I started. I went to the beach and started dancing. And all these solutions came to me and what I needed to do about, you know, learning to love myself, take care of myself, marry myself. And then I had this deep peace about my business. I knew right then that this needed to happen. And then all of the methodology and the training systems I started to download. So I instantly went into rewriting all the manuals. I didn't want one word that she had written in any of my materials. I wanted to be sure of that. So I just started rewriting everything the way it should be, from my heart, the way that the method is. So I was knee deep in that. And then out of the blue, because now I'm. I'm getting. I'm getting out of the story and I'm getting into the solutions of. It still doesn't feel good. I'm having to work my ass off. You know, I'm doing, I'm rebuilding the business while I'm traveling, all of it. And this. Out of the blue, my cousin contacts me and she goes, I cannot believe what happened to you. And she knows what I do and she loves what I do. And she's like, what you're doing in the world, I need to help you. And I said, how can you do that? And she says, well, you remember my dad? Now, her dad is from a marriage, so we're not like blood related. He's my uncle, but we're not blood related. And all the divorces, like, I never knew him. And he happened to be the trademark attorney for the Screen Actors Guild of America for, I don't know, 20 years or something. And now he's like professor of, of law at one of these top universities. And she said, I've contacted my dad and he's going to take your case pro bono. Are you kidding me? Because I knew I couldn't legally do anything because I didn't have the money to hire attorneys. And I'm in Mexico and she's in Canada. I would have to do it in Canada. Like, I just, I couldn't. Legal. I knew, I knew what she had done was fraud and it was clear, but I. I didn't have the money to legally represent myself. So this came as this beautiful gift here. And he was amazing. He was magical. He put it all together and he read all the evidence and he goes, yeah, this is a clear case of fraud. And I'm quite sure I'll have all of your stuff back in a very short period of time. And he did so within a year of putting it all together. He finally she had to sign everything back over into my name. She had to. And then she was also forced to pay a. Sign an agreement that her new company uses my method. Like she, she can't just steal it like that. What she's teaching is what my method. So it was all. That was all great. The do the. The gotten due was due. And then I got to the point where I was on the other side of it and. And I realized that it was a blessing. And I knew that I was on the other side that when I didn't. When I thought about her, I didn't get triggered. Like, you know when someone did something to you, it's like you hear their name and just something inside of you. You want to say something negative or it's just something inside of you. All the triggers were gone. And I was into the place of gratitude, absolute gratitude. And I remember the last email I sent her was just thank you. Thank you because got me to put my big girl panties on, stand on my own two feet and fucking pay attention and take charge of my life. That's what she made me do. And the blessing of my man cheating on me this year of betrayal was that I needed that so that I could see what unconditional love was. Because I loved him unconditionally. And it showed me how to love myself unconditionally. So those two are the hardest things I went through the darkest of my darkest night. And within those are my two greatest lessons in my, like in my life. And what a blessing because those two things is what's allowed me to create everything that I have now. So that's what happened. I got everything back, rebuilt my business. And now the world groove movement is like, I think we're God. We're in 30, 40 countries right now. I have facilitators all around the world teaching this. It is super fun and magical. And the reason why is because you don't have to be a dancer. Like dance is not required to dance. Being a trained dancer is not required to be to dance. And so being a facilitator approve is you're not required. You don't have to be a dancer because you're not teaching people how to dance. You're facilitating the groove experience and uniting everyone. But everyone is dancing their own way. Like it's. It's ridiculously fun and simple. So if any one of you guys out there are interested and you're like, I want to learn more about this, go to getgroove.com and we've got retreats, we've got trainings, we've got online workshops. It's if you're interested and you're afraid to dance or you've been intimidated by dance or you've danced and you want to, like, build a groove community in your neighborhood. Like, I'm telling you, we've got these things all around. It's awesome. So if you're Interested, go to getgroup.com I'll also provide a link somewhere. And if you want to groove with me in your living room, go to bodygroove.com and I've got an epic app with all types of fun dance. Easy, simple, fun dance workouts that'll blow your mind. So anyways, that was for today. Who do we have with here? Marno Saucy Angel Inspiration. Thanks for being here, you guys. So next week, episode nine, we're gonna go into the Love Makin and how I did all of that and what that was like and how I had to give myself permission to get really uncomfortable. So I hope you join me next week. Thank you for being here. I'll also drop my mom's contact because I know a lot of you guys are gonna want to talk to my mom. Um, I love you guys. Thank you. I'll see you guys next week. Ciao for now.