Nir Eyal suggests asking "How important is this to you, on a scale of 1 to 10?" to stop pointless arguments with people close to you. A number cuts through noise and shows whether someone actually cares or just wants to fight.
Have you ever found yourself in a disagreement with someone you care about? Well, try asking this game changing question. How important is this to you? On a scale of 1 to 10, from dinner choices to the name of your firstborn, this method helps avoid unnecessary disagreements. If you're anything like I was, you may have wondered if your partner is arguing because they really care about something or just for the sake of arguing. Numbers provide clarity. They make understanding one another easier and pave the way for constructive resolutions. This method isn't universal, however, it's best for close relationships. And yes, there is the potential for misuse, but it is also a trust test. Even animals test trust. Dogs expose their soft underbellies during play. The one to ten question fosters introspection and validation. It turns arguments into productive conversations. In a world full of misunderstandings, a simple question can bring people closer together. So the next time you disagree, just ask, how important is this to you? On a scale of 1 to 10? For research backed tips, follow for more and check out my book Indistractable.
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