10X Money Mindset Video

Nitu Mohanka leads a workshop on rewiring beliefs about money and income. You write down your target monthly income, then learn how emotional trauma and subconscious blocks prevent wealth creation. The core idea: income must match the value you provide, and mental techniques can reprogram your mind like reshaping dough.
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Perfect. Perfect. तो आज का agenda बता दें। What is the agenda for today? What is the agenda for today? Today we will learn about these three things: what is money, what is money mindset, and how to change money mindset. So today we will learn this, and for tomorrow we will talk more about what is it that we keep about our own self. We think about our own self. Which keeps us in disassociation with money. So this is the agenda for today, and now we will start the program again, and formal training will start now. So now I want you to tell me that how much money do you need per month? I want you to take your pen and paper and write it down. How much money Do you need per month? Write it down. लिख लो आज. Write it down. How much money do you need per month? Write it on a piece of paper that you have kept for your notes, and let me know in the chat box. How much money do you need per month? Haven't thought about it? ये बहुत बड़ी problem आती है लोगों को. That they don't know how much money they want per month. One lakh fifty thousand, fifteen lakhs, three point five lakhs. Everybody has written how much money they want. Four lakhs, five lakhs. Very good, very good, very good, very good, very good. Perfect. अब उसके पास में आप ये लिख लो right next to it. Why do you want this money? Write 3 points. Why do you need this money? Why do you need this money? Write for yourself. Why do you need this money along with the amount? Very good. To own a house, to start a business, to live a luxury life. Financial freedom. Fifteen lakhs per month. Two point five. Causing immense stress. Social status. Luxury life. Help others. Self-curtain association. Savings. Utilities. Investments. Education. EMI. Yep. चलो start करते हैं। ये तो हमने लिख करके रख लिया है। You will need this later on. The amount you will need it later on. Ticket. That is why I want you wanted you to write it down because we will calculate something the income your desired income का जो पर hour का rate होता है I'll tell you later on we'll you know calculate with this amount later on अभी we will go on to understanding what is money ठीक है so let's understand money in deep now क्या होता है money what is money Money evolution के बारे में किसी ने सुना है क्या? Has anybody ever heard about money evolution? Money, आपके लिए क्या है money? What is money for you? मैं mindset के बात नहीं कर रही हूँ, मैं money के बात कर रही हूँ. What does money mean for you? Let me know in the chat box. What does money mean for you? What does money mean for you? Let me know in the chat box. Money means respect. Lifestyle, security, to have stress-free life, freedom. Money means lifeline, everything, right? Happiness, sustenance. थोड़ा मनी के एवोल्यूशन को समझते हैं कि ये मनी का कॉन्सेप्ट आया कहाँ से, आया कहाँ से? ये इतना इम्पोर्टेंट बन कैसे गया हमारे लिए? क्यों बन गया? कब बन गया? कैसे बन गया? जरा समझते हैं मनी के एवोल्यूशन को। बहुत पुरानी बात है, ठीक है? If we go back in time in the ancient stone ages, शुरू कैसे हुआ था कॉन्सेप्ट? बार्टर एक्सचेंज क्या होता है हमें पढ़ाया गया था स्कूल में तो कुछ लोगों के पास कुछ मतलब पैसा नहीं होता था जिस वक्त तब की बात बता रहे हैं किसी के पास काऊ होता था किसी के पास वेजीज होता था वो इसको एक्सचेंज कर लेते थे because they needed each other's support at that time but धीरे-धीरे जब ग्लोबलाइजेशन होने लगा जब लोगों की नीड Then they needed somebody to help them ease out this problem of exchange. क्योंकि somebody needed something, वो उसके पास नहीं होता था, किसी और के पास होता था, तो it was becoming difficult for people. So there was you know a concept was established of gold. So people would go to a bank, a person who would keep the gold. उनको अपना cow देते थे, या फिर veggies देते थे, और उनसे gold ले लेते थे। Now they could take this gold Go in the market and buy whatever they wanted to buy. ठीक है? So ultimately इस gold में क्या मिला उसको? The value of the cow, the value of the veggies, the value of rice. ठीक है? Now slowly because the gold coin is rare, people started using metal coins. Banks came in and they started minting coins and उस coin में एक value होता गया। तो gold की value से कम था उस coin का value that minted coin. बट उसको किसी बैंक ने बोला था कि अगर आप ये जो वैल्यू है इसका कॉइन का ये है, अगेन मेरे पास इसके अगेंस्ट में गोल्ड डिपॉजिटेड है या फिर इसके अगेंस्ट में मेरे पास कोई एसिड डिपॉजिटेड है, तो यू कैन टेक दिस कॉइन एंड बाय समथिंग दैट यू वांट फ्रॉम द मार्केट। सिमिलरली पेपर जो मनी है, जिसको हमलोग इतना वैल्यू देते हैं, वो मनी है क्या? What is that money? What is that money? Money is a store of value. That's all it is. मेरी गाय रखी मैंने आपके पास, आपके पास से गोल्ड कोइन ले लिया। तो उस गोल्ड कोइन की वैल्यू मेरे गाय के हिसाब से है, right? Money is a store of value. All it stores is value and it helps in transfer of value. मतलब eight helps in transfer of value मतलब अगर मुझे पांच लाख रुपए महीना चाहिए पांच लाख रुपए चाहिए तो मुझे पांच लाख रुपए की value देनी पड़ेगी सामने वाले को तो मुझे पांच लाख रुपए मिलेंगे तो अब मुझे पैसे अगर नहीं मिल रहे तो वो किसकी problem है me because I am not giving that kind of value तो ये तो गेम ही चेंज हो गया ना मतलब ये तो पेपर ही लीक हो गया कि it is not about somebody else not giving me money it's about me I am not able to drive that kind of value that I want from money समझ में आए अगर समझ में आए ये बात तो write same page in the chat box if I want five lakh rupees per month I need to give five lakh rupee का worth of value to someone else to get that money What is it that you do not understand in it?
Right?
So you have to be that kind of person. You have to be that valuable to be able to give that value to someone to get that kind of money.
Hmm.
I knew उस पर दिया है। अभी एक मजेदार चीज़ आपको बताते हैं। एक इनकम जो आपको चाहिए ना उसका एक फॉर्मूला होता है, ठीक है? वो इस वैल्यू से ही ड्राइव होता है। सो उस फॉर्मूला को मैं अभी थोड़ा सा आपको बताती हूँ क्या होता है। फॉर्मूला को आप लिख लो। This is the formula. Income is equal to number of working hours into R O T I R O T. I will explain this. Income is equal to number of working hours into R O T I R O T. Can someone tell me what is roti? Anybody, wild guess, what is roti? Food. Livelihood. Income is equal to number of hours worked into roti. Return on time invested. Spot on, Mangesh. Very good, very good. Very good answer. ठीक है, so now we will calculate what is your current roti. कैसे calculate करेंगे? Everybody write down your current monthly income on a piece of paper. Write down your current monthly income on a piece of paper. And also write down the number of hours that you work in a month. So if you work like ten hours a day. And twenty days in a month, तो ten into twenty two hundred hours हो गए आपके। जितना भी घंटा आप काम करते हो लिख लो। Amount that you make every month and the number of hours that you work every month. Write down both these figures. Very good, very good, very good. Now divide your total income from the return of From the number of hours that you work, divide your total income from the number of hours that you work every month. Let me know in the chat box what is your per hour value. What is your current per hour value? Let me know in the chat box what is your current per hour value. Dilip का one triple two, Mangesh four hundred. One one six six two thousand four twenty five eight hundred. Very good, very good. अब एक सेकंड फॉर्मूला करेंगे। आपका जो डिजायर्ड इनकम है, the desired income that you wrote in the beginning of the program, that desired income divided by The number of hours that you want to work in future. The total amount that you want to make, the one that you wrote in the beginning of the program, that divided by number of hours that you want to work. Now tell me, what is the desired income per hour? Calculate and let me know in the chat box what should be your desired income के हिसाब से your rate per hour. Three thousand five hundred one three eight eight one seven zero four ज़्यादा difference नहीं है जितेंद्र हो जाएगा with a little bit of upgradation हम्म हम्म हम्म तो एक reality check मिला आपको कि आप अभी जितना earn कर रहे हो per hour और जो आपका desired है उसमें एक gap है और वो gap इसलिए है क्योंकि उतना value आप extra किसी को provide नहीं कर रहे हो Did you get a reality check? Type yes in the chat box, and if you are on the same page, good, very good. It's a lot of difference. Do you see that, Shefali? Got a reality check? Very good. Hmm. So it will not happen in one day, of course, if it is a lot of difference, but it will happen if you start working towards becoming more valuable yourself. Then only you will be able to provide value to someone else. Now I will discuss about what are the seven levels of money. तारा मनी के levels को समझे। What are these seven levels of money? मजा आएगा आपको। देखिए, level one dependent, level two solvent, three stable, security dependent, freedom and abundance। One by one करके इसको समझेंगे क्या है ये dependent stage क्या होता है? Earning less than you spend और if you are not earning at all so mostly kids या फिर senior citizens जो अपने मतलब बच्चों पे dependent हैं and they don't earn anything So reliant on your parent support or any other sort of monetary support from an external party, इस level पे, इस money level पे आपका investment is zero. Solvent expenses are lower than your income. At the solvent stage, you are likely to meet your financial commitments including paying the bills and other deductions from your account without actively relying on anyone else. Again, no investments. Stable consistently save कर रहे हैं। कम खर्च कर रहे हैं देन योर अर्निंग्स पेड़ ऑफ सम ऑफ योर डेट एंड यू आर इन स्टेबल फेज़ योर थ्री मंथ्स एक्सपेंसेस आर कवर्ड सो इफ यू लीव योर जॉब टुडे एंड स्टॉप अर्निंग यू शुड बी एबल टू सरवाइव फॉर द नेक्स्ट थ्री मंथ्स स्मॉल इन्वेस्टमेंट स्टार्ट्स हैप्पीनिंग अराउंड It is the time to let the money you have saved to go to work. So your investments start making money now. That is security level. Let the magic of compound interest work its magic in this stage, and you have now six months' expenses covered if you do not work any single day. Independence. दो flow of income आने लगेगा यहाँ पर. You should earn solid long-term returns from your investment. So now you start. You know, getting returns from your own investments. Dividends मिल सकते हैं आपको and twelve months का expenses would be covered if you are in this stage. Freedom. I am on this stage right now. Not two years. I have more than three years of experience. You know, expenses covered. This is the time to be really free and to do whatever it is that you have ever wanted to do. So this is what. That I always want to do. Teach, mentor, coach. So this is what I'm doing, and I just love this job because I don't have to do it for the sake of money because I have that kind of freedom. ठीक है four flows of income से ज़्यादा है मेरे पास because I get income from various sources. But I keep myself in this category. The best category is this, of course, abundance. You are at the pinnacle of money success ladder. This is the Ambanis and the Bill Gates of the world. You know the world that they deploy their money in the best possible way, make plans to leave it to their beneficiaries. Seven flows of income, maybe more than that, and they have their ten generations covered possibly. So मुझे बताएं chat box में कि आप कौन से level पे हैं? Let me know in the chat box which level you are at. सॉल्वेंट सिक्योरिटी वेरी गुड बिलो स्टेबल बिलो स्टेबल इज़ डिपेंडेंट डिपेंडेंट डिपेंडेंट स्टेबल डिपेंडेंट डिपेंडेंट हम्म कुछ गड़बड़ किया शशि रेखा आपने समथिंग हैज हैप्पेन्ड सम माइंडसेट चेंज हैप्पेन्ड बिकॉज़ ऑफ़ दिस You went down solvent ठीक है so everybody now थोड़ा सा reset कर लीजिए थोड़ा पानी वानी पी लीजिए because अब अब आपका एक financial audit होगा अब आपका एक financial audit होगा तो सब थोड़ा पानी वानी पीले reset कर लें खुद को very good very good एक छोटा सा टेक्निक करेंगे फ़िनैंशियल ऑडिट करने के लिए। एवरीबॉडी रेडी? रेडी तो ट्राइब मी इन द चैट बॉक्स मजा आएगा आपको। अमेजिंग, वेरी गुड, परफेक्ट, ठीक है। So everybody, spine सीधी, कंधे सीधे, neck straight. Close your eyes. Spine सीधी रहेगी आपकी। Your spine should be straight, shoulders out and neck straight and close your eyes. Now take three deep breaths. Breathe in deeply from your nostrils. Breathe out slowly from your mouth. Breathe in deeply from your nostrils. Breathe out slowly from your mouth. And one more time, breathe in deeply from your nostrils and breathe out slowly from your mouth. Very good, very good. Now think of yourself as a rich person. Imagine yourself as a rich person. एक इमेज क्रिएट कीजिए अपने माइंड में इन योर विथ योर आईज़ क्लोज्ड of that you are a rich person. Create your own image looking rich, as if you are a rich person. Very good, very good. Now see, where is this image located in front of you? Is it in your left, in your right, or in your center? Just observe. Is it up, down, or middle? Is it a movie or is it a still frame? Is the image bright, dim, or dark? Just observe. Keep your eyes closed. Just observe. Very good, very good. Is it Framed or panoramic? Framed is when you can see the corners of the image. Is it framed or is it panoramic that you see it like panoramic without frames? Very good, very good, very good, very good. Now see that this is a small size, medium size, or a life-size picture? Very good. Very good, very good, very good, very good. Now see that whether you are in the picture or not. Very good. Now everybody rub your hands, put it on your face, and slowly come out. Slowly come out. How was it? How was it? One question. आप लोग में से कितने लोग थे जिनको अपनी शकल ही दिखाई नहीं दी? That you could not see even see your face. How many people were not able to see your face? Do you know what does that mean? It means that you do not have the image of a rich person in your mind at all. You want financial freedom, you want a lot of money, but when your internal image is not that of a rich person, can you achieve that image, that money, that financial freedom that you're looking for? Never! Because whatever internal image that we have in our mind, Sorry guys, I got disconnected. Yeah, I'm back. I'm back. I was disconnected. I'm back. ठीक है। So बता दे, what does this mean? The thing that we did, what was that? अगर आपको अपना चेहरा बिल्कुल अपने सामने दिखता है, clear दिखता है, bright दिखता है, panoramic दिखता है, आपको एक movie में दिखता है। अगर आपको लग लाइफ साइज दिखता है, that is when you have the exact picture of being rich. If there is any misalignment, which means आपका रिचनेस के साथ आप डिसऑसोसिएटेड हो मेंटली, and this needs to be fixed because whatever internal image you will have of yourself, that is what is exactly going to happen in reality. When I found out about this for the first time, it was like oh my God! I— this is why I was struggling, you know, when I first did this exercise. I was not even able to see my face. Who else is here who was not able to see their face? And this happened to me like 4 years back, just 4 years back, and from then to now I'm financially free. That is how important the internal image is for our mind. क्यों होता है ये? Why does it happen? Why does it happen that we do not have that image of richness? And even if we want, वहाँ पहुँचना बहुत मुश्किल है. पता है किसी को? क्यों हम लोग के दिमाग में ये internal image की need होती है? तो देखें, एक concept होता है hemostasis. What is this concept? Hemostasis is the comfort zone of the mind. क्या है? Comfort zone of the mind. ये जो comfort zone होता है ना, इसका काम है, हमारे mind का काम है, default system है कि कुछ भी discomfort अगर होता है हमें, कोई भी चीज़ जो हमारे hemostasis के बाहर है, हमारे comfort zone के बाहर है, हमें वापस comfort zone में लाए और बैलेंस को रीस्टोर करें। ये हमारे माइंड का डिफ़ॉल्ट सिस्टम है। तो अगर आपके इंटरनल इमेज रिच बंदे की नहीं है, if your internal image is not that of a rich person and you try and go and do something beyond this image, your mind will bring you back, snap you back to this comfort zone। क्यों होता है ये? Why this happens? It's a long you know concept again. If you want the answer to this, you can ask me, you know, towards the end of the program. If anybody has this question, please write it down in a paper, and I'll answer this question. But right now I'll not break the flow. So the brain's job is to maintain hemostasis, comfort zone को maintain करके रखना है. So if in the comfort zone your internal image is of a poor person, it will always want to keep you poor. And that is why it so happens that people who earn a lot of money still come back to that comfort zone. And it happens to a lot of other people also that if you are earning some kind of money, you go down from it, but then you again snap back to that level of income. So say for example Amitabh Bachchan. Amitabh Bachchan once in his life lost everything. He lost everything, and then He snapped back to his comfort zone again, and he regained everything that he wanted. दूसरा एग्जांपल KBC जो पहले विनर थे I don't remember his name. He came to KBC, he earned one crore rupees, but then after going back within a year's time he lost all his money. He got involved with wrong people. He lost all his money, and he was back to his comfort zone. This is how the mind works. This is what is the mind's primary function— to keep us safe, keep us in that comfort zone. So it always will detect discomfort, restore balance, resist triggers so that we are safe, there is no risk involved, and it forms habits as a protective shield. This is— mind is, you know, someone who is just— its job is to protect. So if you are trying to do something beyond this comfort zone, it means that you are not protected. It means you're not protected. So mind will always want to keep you in that comfort zone so that you feel protected. Okay, so, and this is why our growth gets limited. This is why our growth gets limited. This is hemostasis, guys. Very important concept. Have you been able to understand that? If yes, please write yes in the chat box. Are you on the same page? If yes, write yes in the chat box. क्यों होता है ऐसा कि हमको ये image ऐसी क्यों बनती है? Anybody knows ये image ऐसी क्यों बनती है? Do you want to know ये image ऐसी बनती क्यों है? नहीं पता। I want to know. Yes, Neha. I'll talk about it. So देखो money जो होता है ना it is an energy. Like everything in this universe, we are also an energy body. This glass is an energy body. Water is an energy. Our mobile phone, this laptop, everything is made of atoms. And anything which is made of atoms has energy. We know that, right? So similarly, money is also an energy. And this energy That money energy, because it's a currency, it is supposed to be in a flow in our life. It is supposed to be in a flow in our life. So we need to receive money easily in our life, keep it easily, and be able to spend it easily. Most of the people spending time, they will go spend the money and then they'll come back and they'll repent. Oh, I've, you know, wrongly spent it. And when you are receiving, many a times I have seen people that, you know, they know that they deserve more, but they end up asking less because they do not have that confidence that they will— they can receive more. And, you know, people don't go out, ask for promotions. People don't go out, ask for the right money that they deserve. I have had a mentee who was giving free lessons to a girl which was solving her so much problem, uh, you know, for her own self. So she was basically using him, and he was not able to ask her for money, which he could have easily made 1 lakh, 2 lakh from that He did not because there was a resistance in asking. What is this resistance? This is again the resistance of the comfort zone. Similarly, for keeping, many people have you know blockages in keeping the money. So you have very good receiving that you are receiving with ease, but you also spend with ease, and then you end up with no money in your hand. कितनों के साथ ऐसा होता है कि पैसे कमा भी रहे हैं जहाँ भी रहा है मेरे पास नहीं बच रहा है। Classic problem, classic problem है ये। Mental blocks होते हैं ये लोग। These are mental blocks which we learnt as a child in the childhood and वो जो childhood के जो traumas होते हैं mental blocks होते हैं this is what keeps us in disassociation with money। कुंडली दोष, कुंडली दोष कुछ नहीं होता। नहीं कुंडली दोष नहीं है, ठीक है? कुंडली दोष नहीं है। बताएँगे, बताएँगे इसके बारे में बताएँगे। तो अभी ये बता दिया मैंने flow of money सबको समझ आ गया what is flow of money? You will have abundant money if you have flow of you know receiving in ease with ease keeping with ease And giving with ease energy. अगर आप बार-बार, बार-बार कुछ खर्चा करने के बाद से, for example electricity का bill देने के बाद अगर आप बार-बार वो energy दे रहे हो कि यार इतना महंगा bill आ गया, अरे इसी का bill इतना आ गया, which means you are giving negative energy to money. It means you are giving negative energy to money. So ये सब नहीं करना है friends. This is what is keeping you from having enough money because you are training your mind to think that because I spend that money I will not have enough. The moment you come into the energy that I have enough, I can afford this and I'm paying for it with an open mind and acceptance, you will start retraining your brain for the right money energy. अभी तीन level of mind के बारे में समझेंगे। इसको समझिए। What are the three levels of mind? Very important concept. ठीक है? हमारा जो mind होता है ना वो तीन लेवल पे, वो तीन लेवल पे बंधा होता है। तो हमारा माइंड का एक टॉप लेयर होता है, एक मिडिल लेयर होता है और एक नीचे का लेयर होता है। The top layer is called conscious mind, the middle layer is called subconscious mind and the bottom layer is called unconscious mind। एक-एक करके समझें ये क्या होता है? Unconscious mind is the repository of memories that we have. Ever since we were born, even before we were born, जब हम लोग मदर्स के वुम्ब में होते हैं, तब से लेके आज तक का जितना डेटा, जितना मेमोरी हमारे पास है, वो हमारे अनकॉन्शियस माइंड में रहता है, whether we want it or not. Second layer is subconscious, इसको बाद में बताएँगे। And the third layer is conscious, conscious mind is our logical mind, the prefrontal cortex, जहाँ से हम लोग logical decisions लेते हैं। We take logical decisions from the conscious mind. Subconscious क्या होता है? ये conscious और unconscious के बीच का एक processor होता है। अगर conscious mind को कोई information चाहिए, कोई logic चाहिए, कोई मतलब कोई decision लेना है, तो decision लेने के लिए what conscious mind does is it goes to the subconscious. Subconscious क्या करता है? Unconscious से data निकालता है, उसको process करता है। Just like a computer guys, just like a computer. Subconscious is the processor of our you know entire life वो उस वो unconscious से लेता है उसको process करता है and then conscious mind को वो data feed करता है so that conscious mind can take a informed choice तो होता क्या है जो हमारा conscious और subconscious mind है वो seventy percent है और unconscious is thirty percent conscious mind से हमलोग सिर्फ ten percent काम करते हैं बाकि जितना भी काम हमारे life में होता है it is The role of subconscious and unconscious. किसी को ये पता था? Most of the time, we end up only working on the ten percent of the layer. We are only working from logic. We are not use using the ninety percent of our mind, which actually helps us make decisions, the right decisions. Processing वहाँ पे हो रही है दोस्तों. और हमलोग logical mind use कर रहे हैं, but we are more than logical beings, we are emotional beings। हमलोग emotions से हमेशा decision लेते हैं क्योंकि subconscious का language ही emotion है, subconscious का language ही emotion है and जबी भी वो हमें data feed कर रहा है वो उस emotion के basis पे data feed कर रहा है और conscious mind जब हमलोग को मतलब वो डिसीजन ले रहा है, वो लॉजिक के हिसाब से डिसीजन ले रहा है। and that is why many a times conscious and subconscious is in misalignment। तो conscious mindset तो हम चाहते हैं कि मुझे पांच लाख रुपए पर महीने मिले, but subconscious ने इमेज क्या बना रखी है? Of a poor person। तो consciously we want abundance, but subconscious does not have abundance in its processor data। तो इसीलिए लोग स्ट्रेस में रहते हैं, क्योंकि conscious और subconscious का अलाइनमेंट ही नहीं है। समझ में आया? समझ में आया तो please write same page in the chat box. If you get it, please write yes in the chat box. Good question, Kaushiki. हम्म, very good। अब देखें क्या elements होते हैं हमारे mind के जो हमारे financial game को impact करते हैं। These are the three elements that impact our financial game: neurochemistry, subconscious associations and strategies. जो स्ट्रेटेजी है, वो कॉन्शियस माइंड का काम है, which is just twenty percent of the game. स्किल्स अक्वायर करना। जो मेजर फ़िनेंस गुरुज़ जो आपको बता रहे हैं, वो सिर्फ स्किल सेट के बारे में बता रहे हैं, माइंड सेट के बारे में नहीं बता रहे हैं। आप कितना भी स्किल अक्वायर कर लो, you cannot put it to work if your neurochemistry and your subconscious association is not right, because that is eighty percent of the decision maker in your financial game. 80% of your decisions in the financial game is taken by your mindset. Skills सिर्फ 20% का game है लोगों को। इसीलिए chartered accountant, all the skills in the world that I can have, still struggled with money because I did not have the idea about mindset। क्या होता है ये neurochemistry subconscious association strategies के बारे में discuss नहीं करेंगे because इसके लिए तो पूरी दुनिया भरी हुई है और आपको दे ही रही है बहुत सारे ज्ञान, so we will talk about neurochemistry and subconscious associations today. ठीक है? क्या है neurochemistry? Hormones. जब ही भी हमलोग के साथ कभी कुछ होता है ना life में, कोई traumatic experience होता है, हमारा body उसको register करता है through hormones. तो say for example you were a child and something happened to you which gave you an emotional response in the body which was negative. तो मनी को लेकर के ही ले लेते हैं, because that is the topic of the day. आप बचपन में suppose करो कि आपको कुछ चाहिए था और किसी ने मना कर दिया कि मेरे पास पैसे नहीं है something you know for an example I had a client very good client very very you know intelligent IIM का बंदा था NIT IIM का बंदा he came to my workshop and he said that I cannot ask for money मैंने कहा क्यों बोले कि because I asked for a loan from one of my friend at a time and he refused so he felt such negative emotions इन हिस बॉडी नेगेटिव इमोशन क्या होता है कब होता है जब आपको किसी ने मना किया जैसे मेरे उस क्लाइंट को किसी ने मना किया तो उस वक्त उसके बॉडी में एक इमोशनल रेस्पांस आया व्हाट वाज़ दैट इमोशनल रेस्पांस अ रिलीज़ ऑफ़ नेगेटिव हार्मोन इन हिस बॉडी विच इज़ कोटिज़ोल एड्रेनालिन निकलते हैं उस वक्त, उस वक्त आप एक बिलीफ बना लेते हो मनी को लेकर के या खुद को लेकर के कि अच्छा ऐसा हुआ मेरे साथ, ऐसा इसलिए हुआ because now complete the sentence मेरे में कोई कमी है या पैसे में कोई प्रॉब्लम है। तो ये जो हार्मोन्स होते हैं ना जो न्यूरोकेमिस्ट्री है तब every time a certain event happens in your life now आपने सीखा तो वो बचपन में था आज भी आप उसी बिहेवियर को रिपीट करते हो एवरी टाइम समथिंग हैपेंस इन द सिमिलर पैटर्न। सो नेगेटिव हार्मोन्स जो होता है, वो होता है नेगेटिव एसोसिएशंस विथ हार्मोन्स। दैट इस न्यूरोकेमिस्ट्री। पॉजिटिव भी है ऑक्सीटोसिन, डोपामिन, सेरोटोनिन ये सारे पॉजिटिव भी हैं। ये जो पॉज पॉजिटिव वाले ऑक्सीटोसिन, डोपामीन, सेरोटॉनिन होते हैं। तो अगर आपने कभी अच्छा फील किया है किसी चीज़ को लेकर के, तो ये वाले हार्मोन्स बॉडी में रिलीज़ होते हैं। तो अब जो बिहेवियर आपने उस वक्त किया था, जिसकी वजह से अच्छे हार्मोन्स आपके बॉडी में रिलीज़ हुए, आप बार-ब उस टाइम में आपको मिलता है एक डोपामिन का हिट। जैसे ही वो डोपामिन का हिट मिला, you are like okay ठीक है, this is the job that I want to do and then you keep repeating that behavior for years together despite not wanting to because वो एक डोपामिन का हार्मोन आपको बॉडी में मिला with a salary credit। किस-किस के साथ ये होता है? Please let me know in the chat box. Please let me know in the chat box किस-किस के साथ होता है? ठीक है तो इसको न्यूरोकेमिस्ट्री बोलते हैं कि आपके जो डिसीजन मेकिंग है ना इट इज़ यू नो प्राइमरीली प्राइमरीली हार्मोनल डिसीजंस वी वर्क फॉर मनी सी क्योंकि बहुत सारे डिसोसोसिएशंस हैं मनी को लेकर के वो डोपामिन का जो हिट मिलता है ना वो उस टाइम पे माइंडली के एंड में उसकी वजह से ये सीएम पकड़ा गया। I don't get that. Okay, ठीक है, ठीक है। तो everybody understood this concept? Let me know same page in the chat box. If you have been able to understand, write same page in the chat box. Very good, very good. Same page, very good. Now we will talk about subconscious associations. क्या है subconscious associations? थोड़ा reset कर लें आपने आपको पानी वानी पीलें आधा घंटा और हो गया है। Very good. Subconscious association क्या है? Subconscious association मनी के साथ होता है और self के साथ होता है. I told you about this in the beginning of the program also. कि जब मनी के साथ हम लोग का कुछ negative experience हुआ है, उस time में हम लोग मनी के साथ disassociated हो जाते हैं. तो subconscious association की जग़ा उसको बोलेंगे subconscious disassociation. अगर positive आपका association है, तो good positive associations. Feelings, emotions रहे हैं towards money और आपने उसको experience किया है as a child because mostly these patterns get created in the childhood तो आप हमेशा money से disassociated रहोगे एक ये होता है disassociation एक होता है disassociation with self this is what we will talk about tomorrow what is disassociation with self when we do not understand ourselves we will understand more about ourselves in deep tomorrow क्या-क्या चीजें अपने बारे में जानने की जरूरत है और कैसे सब मतलब subconscious association जो हमारा बना हुआ है नेगेटिव वाला उसको कैसे ब्रेक करते हैं ऑल दिस वी विल टॉक अबाउट टुमारो ठीक है अभी मनी के बारे में बात करेंगे बिकॉज़ आज का टॉपिक वो है ऑलराइट सो मनी का सब कॉन्शियस डिसअसोसिएशन क्यों होता है लिमिटिंग बिलीव्स अबाउट मनी बचपन से ही ऐसी बातें ऐसी हरकतें हम मनी को लेकर के बहुत सारी चीजें ऐसे सुनने को मिली हैं हमारे आसपास से हमारे बड़ों से हमारे पड़ोसी से हमारे you know people who influence us वो लोग बार-बार बार-बार हमें ऐसा बताया गया है मनी के बारे में जिसकी वजह से as a child we learnt that money is not good for us and we created limiting beliefs about money पैसे पेड़ पे नहीं होते कितने उन्हें सुना है पैसे पेड़ पे नहीं होते मतलब this is the Patent, patent thing. Money do not grow on trees. This is the patent thing that we have all heard about ever since childhood, because in Indian societies, this is how kids are raised. Because India has struggled with poverty for a very long time, economic distress for a very long time. पहले नहीं था, but after the Britishers came and they went and took away all our resources, after that. This was something that India was struggling with and this is what the beliefs that got formed at that time to our parents, grandparents, this got passed on to us. पैसे पेड़ पे नहीं उगते। Very good। क्या-क्या है ये limiting beliefs? See, I will tell you। बहुत जनों ने सुना है, हमने भी सुना है। Money is the root of all evil। पैसा सब problem की जड़ है। Money is scarce. There's not enough money. There's never enough money. Money is hard to come by. You have to do hard work to get money. You cannot get money easily. Money is not important. Money is a source of stress. Wanting money is greedy. पैसा बनाने के लिए और पैसा चाहिए. If you have money, then only you can make money. So a lot of people come to me. They're like, "I want to start a business, but I do not have the money to start a business. So that is why I cannot start a business." business. But we know of people who have started businesses without money. I started my business without my putting too much money, so I started from scratch my entire coaching business 2 years back. I started this from scratch. I first earned money and then I started putting it into business, and that's how I could develop this business who's making me— which is making me financially free today. So this is of course again not valid. You need money to make money. One can't be both rich and kind. So rich people are unkind. हाँ उसके पास तो पैसा है, घमंड हो गया उसको। That person is you know selfish, घमंडी, greedy. Rich people are greedy. They are bad. They are evil. Money is a zero-sum game. If I they have more money then I cannot have more money because there's limited amount of money in this environment. Money can't buy happiness. भाई ये तो This is money can't buy happiness is something मतलब पैसों से खुशी नहीं मिलता। This is I mean this I have a rage for this sentence money can't buy happiness. Who is telling you money can't buy happiness? मतलब money can buy happiness but in a different way. Money is a tool that help us buy things that gives us happiness. Money के साथ happiness तो हमलोग buy कर ही नहीं सकते। It's like Comparing apples and oranges, we cannot exchange money for happiness. We exchange money as a tool to buy things, get experiences that gives us happiness. So money can't buy happiness. Please, sorry. This this I I don't take it.
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It's selfish to want money. Okay? जिसके लिए selfish लगता है, please give me all the money. I will keep it. I don't mind. You know, जिसको भी लग रहा है कि selfish to want money, please don't be selfish. I will be selfish. Give that money to me. ठीक है। If I give money, I will have less. If I give away money, then I won't have enough money because I am not capable to earn more money. किस-किसने सुना है इस limiting beliefs को money के about बारे में? आपके अगर कुछ inputs हैं तो आप भी बता दें कि इसके अलावा भी और कोई limiting belief सुना है क्या आपने? Money break relationships. Money break relationships. Wow, this is classic. This is classic. Money break relationships. Yeah, पैसों से रिश्ते टूट जाते हैं। पैसों से कैसे रिश्ते टूट सकते हैं? मतलब how can money break relationships? Why are we being taught? मैं आपको बताती हूँ क्यों लोग बोल रहे हैं मनी को लेकर के इतना कुछ क्योंकि पैसा कमाने के लिए आपको अपना माइंडसेट चेंज करना पड़ेगा, मेहनत करना पड़ेगा। पैसे को खराब बोल दो तो कुछ करने की जरूरत ही नहीं है। It's easy to blame money। उसको बोल दो कि it is a root cause of all evil and I don't want to be a part of that evil। So easy right? You don't have to move your ass and then you are able to have that kind of you know ease in life without having money because you don't want to do that hard work। You lend money, you don't get it back. Ending up breaking up the relationship. Yes, Mangesh, it happens. But why you are lending money? Your mind knows that the person is not going to give back, which means you are living in disassociation with money and ending up breaking that relationship. पैसा ही सब कुछ नहीं होता, परिवार होता है। पैसा ही सब कुछ नहीं होता, परिवार होता है। Very good, very good. और जब आप परिवार से पैसा मांगने के लिए जाओ तो पूरा परिवार आपसे दूर हो जाता है। Has anybody experienced that? I guess people have become toxic, not the money. Money keeps revolving around you till the end. True. If you have the right energies, if you are living in the right energies, money will give you everything that you want. It's a tool, guys. It's just a tool. Use it as a tool to get what you want. And to get that tool उस tool को चाहने के लिए आपको उतनी value देनी है किसी और को उसके लिए आपको उतना valuable बनना है उतना knowledge gain करना है उतना काम करना है जितना आपको चाहिए वो दे दो ले लो काम खत्म छुट्टी इतना बड़ा हवा नहीं है मनी इतना बड़ा हवा नहीं है मनी जितना हमने बना दिया इसको क्योंकि हर एक चीज के लिए Because for everything that we need, we go and have to exchange money. That is why people have started making it as something which is not good. Because वो अगर अच्छा हो जाएगा, तो हमारी life अच्छी हो जाएगी. हम लोगों ने सीखा ही नहीं अपनी life अच्छा करना. बच्पन से ही सिखा दिया है भाईया discipline में रहो, ऐसे रहो, वैसे रहो. You will get out of line. If you get more money, you will not be in control. You will not be grounded. ये सारी चीजें हमें बचपन से सिखाई गई हैं, जो मूवीज़ भी बनते हैं ना हमारे, the movies that we experience बचपन से, वो यही होता है कि उसमें जो हीरो होता है, वो हमेशा गरीब होता है, और जो विलन होता है, वो हमेशा अमीर होता है, और जो विलन होता है, वो हीरोइन को किडनैप करता है, हीरो जाता है, उस हीरोइन को वहाँ से Since the childhood to be poor so that we can get that heroin and we can be the hero of the movie जो पैसा वाला villain है वो खराब है क्यों बनाते हैं ऐसी movies लोग क्यों बनाते हैं ऐसी movies नसीब में जितना है उतना ही पैसा this is classic okay ऐसी movies क्यों बनाते हैं please इसका concept भी समझिए क्योंकि जो लोग गरीब होते हैं ना वही लोग अपना time waste करते हैं वो movies को देखने के लिए जिनका इंटरनल इमेज पूर्व वाला है, जिनको अपना टाइम का वैल्यू नहीं है, वो लोग जाते हैं वो मूवीज़ देखने के लिए। उनको माइंड में रखकर के वो मूवीज़ बनाई जाती है। But everybody is consuming it, right? Our kids are consuming it. So I would say safely that the entire movie industry which is like giving us this idea that money is bad, we should keep our kids away from that. मूवी इंडस्ट्री आल्सो जहाँ पे ये आइडिया दिया जाता है बच्चों को कि जो विलन है वो पैसे वाला है और जो हीरो है वो गरीब है। Keep your children away from this because this is what they are going to learn for their life and that is how they will live in non-abundance all their life. This does not work for us। मुझे एक पैसा वाला बंदा बताइए जो जाकर के अपना टाइम तीन-तीन घंटे जो बहुत रचे अंबानी, वो जाकर के मूवी ह You know the kind of time he will spend in the money, you know in the movie. अगर आपको अपना रोटी पता है, तो आपको ये पता होगा कि अगर मैं मूवी देखने जा रहा हूँ, तो मेरे को मूवी वो जो पड़ रही है, वो 200-300 रुपए की नहीं पड़ रही है। वो मूवी अगर तीन घंटे चलेगी, आने-जाने का, चार घंटा, चार घंटा into my रोटी, that is the kind of amount I will spend on that money. Once you start taking decisions from this point of view, you will stop wasting your time. On things that does not add value to your life. ठीक है, क्या मजा आ रहा है? If you are on same page till now, please write same page in the chat box. अगर आपको अपना रोटी पता है ना, आप अपना time waste नहीं करोगे। आपके पास पैसे इसलिए नहीं है क्योंकि आप अपना time waste कर रहे हो। You are not becoming more valuable. You are not creating value. ठीक है उस पैटर्न को ब्रेक भी कर सकते हैं ये पैटर्न ब्रेक किया जा सकता है anybody who wants to break this pattern एक पैटर्न को आज ब्रेक करेंगे so are you excited about it Are you excited about breaking your patterns? We will break one of your money patterns today. पैर उतने ही फैलाओ जितने चादर हो। I have heard this every single day। चलो फिर शुरू करते हैं। चलो फिर शुरू करते हैं। पानी वानी पी लीजिए, फिर से reset कीजिए because अभी एक technique करेंगे हमलोग that technique will go for like about seven to ten minutes। Everybody थोड़ा सा हाथ पैर यू यू कर लीजिए पानी पी लीजिए अपने आप को reset कर लीजिए very good and now if you are ready to do the technique write me in the chat box बहुत मजा आएगा आपको perfect Perfect, amazing. चलो good. So again alpha state create करेंगे spine सीधी कंधे सीधे next state रहेंगे आपके just मैं आपको एक बार instructions समझा देती हूँ कैसे रहेगा instructions तो आप money को लेकर के कोई भी एक negative experience जो आपके साथ हुआ है life में कोई भी एक negative experience बद से बदतर अगर आपको कुछ याद आता है तो सबसे best है because उसी को break कर देंगे आज एक नेगेटिव एक्सपीरियंस को अपने माइंड में लेके आइए, उसकी एक इमेज अपने माइंड में क्रिएट कीजिए। एक्सेक्ट इवेंट जो आपके साथ हुआ था, जहाँ पे आपने बहुत बुरा फील किया था, when it comes to money, वो इमेज को याद करेंगे और उस इमेज को ब्रेक करेंगे। मैं आपको एक विजुअलाइजेशन कराऊँगी, उस विजुअलाइजेशन So everybody, image याद आ गया? अगर याद आ गया तो write yes in the chat box. Very good, very good, very good. Already imagining. Hmm, yes, very good. So everybody attention, spine straight, neck straight, shoulder straight. Keep your eyes closed. Follow my instructions. Very good. Take 3 deep breaths. Breathe in from your nostrils. Breathe out from your mouth. Deeply breathe in from your nostrils. Slowly breathe out from your mouth. Very good, very good. And one more time, breathe in from your nostrils and breathe out from your mouth. Very good. Very good, very good. Now that image that you saw, that event का image जो आपके दिमाग में भी आया था, देखिए कि आपके सामने एक brown color का table है, उस table के ऊपर एक डब्बा वाला television है, डब्बा वाला television। उस image को उस television पे देखिए। Very good, very good. Take your time. Brown table पे डब्बा वाला television है, उस television पे उस image को देखिए। Very good. Very good. See it playing on that television in front of you. Very good, very good, very good. Now take the remote control of that television. Mute का बटन दबा दीजिए अब इसका। Mute कर दीजिए इसको। There should be no sound. Very good, very good. Very good. If you are not able to mute, धीरे-धीरे minus कीजिए ten nine eight seven six five four three two one mute. Kaushiki, you will do it. Stay with me. Very good. See it on the television. Use the remote. Mute it. Very good. Very good. Now pause this. Pause this entire thing into a single frame. Pause it. Use the pause button and pause it. Very good, very good. Now slowly remove all colors from this picture. Use the color button and remove all colors from this picture. 10, 9, 8, 7. Very good, very good. 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. And now it's completely black and white. Very good, very good, very good. Now use the brightness button. Slowly remove all the brightness. Ten, nine, eight, seven, six, five, four, three, two, one. Now it's completely dark. Very good, very good. It's completely dark. Now imagine कि ये जो डस्टर है आपके हाथ में, जो डस्टर है आपके हाथ में, ये एक स्प्रे पेंट बन गया है। अब इस टेलीविजन के ऊपर पेंट को स्प्रे कीजिए। स्प्रे दैट ब्लैक कलर का पेंट ऑन दैट टेलीविजन। स्प्रे इट, वेरी गुड, वेरी गुड, वेरी गुड, वेरी गुड। स्प्रे इट, स्प्रे इट। नाउ दिस स्प्रे हैव कन्वर्टेड इनटू अ डस्टर। यूज़ दैट डस्टर तू क्लीन दैट टेलीविजन। वेरी गुड। फिजिकली क्लीन इट, क्लीन इट विद योर हैंड। वेरी गुड। One, two, three converted into a rocket. Very good, very good, very good. Now I will count till three and this rocket will hit from the table and it will go through your roof. One, two, three hit it! Rocket ऊपर जाता हुआ देखे। Very good, very good आपके roof को तोड़ता हुआ ऊपर जाता हुआ very good, very good ऊपर जाता हुआ दूर जाता हुआ आपसे दूर जाता हुआ छोटा होता हुआ दूर जाता हुआ छोटा होता हुआ दूर जाता हुआ छोटा होता हुआ ना and now it's gone very good come back see that the table is empty now very good Very good, very good. Rub your hands, put it on your face, and slowly come out. Very good, very good, very good. How was your experience? Let me know in the chat box. Very good. Very good. It's not easy to break your pattern. You did it. Very good. Very good. I know. होता है और वेश. सिक्के Very good. Good question. Very good. Now we are done for the day today. एक मनी ब्लॉकेज हमने तोड़ दिया आज and now I will open up for questions and answers. Anybody who has questions, please raise your hand and I will unmute you and you can start your questions. Anybody who wants to have Ask a question. I kept seeing the television on that disassociation. If anybody has questions, please raise your hands, and I will— I cannot see any raised hands, so I assume— okay, Kaushiki has question. Kaushiki, unmute yourself. Very good. Go ahead, ask your question. Good evening all.
Thank you, ma'am, for the session so much. Uh, ma'am, generally a question I have is that investment is good, definitely. It compounds it, and you invest in mutual fund, FD, whichever you have. But sometimes it's like I get into the loop that you need to have a liquid fund. So although I have good amount as an FD, I have small investment, I have a property All buy from my own money. So sometimes it's overwhelming how much to say is this, that this much is good as a liquid fund, that hey listen, this much if you have, I should be stress-free and I, and I can shift my focus or my energy on making more valuable.
What is your question, Kaushiki?
The liquid fund, when we say how much and how much is enough to say that this much liquid fund you should have.
What would be enough for you? किसी के लिए एक महीना भी बहुत होता है, किसी के लिए दस साल भी नहीं होता। आपके लिए क्या enough है? One year. You have your answer?
Okay. Thank you so much, ma'am.
You're welcome. Thank you. Uh, Urvish, please unmute yourself. Yes, please ask your question.
Hi, good evening and thank you for this. Uh, just a quick recap, if you can explain about the conscious and the subconscious part again in just a couple of lines.
That's it. What is your question? What is it that you did not understand? I will explain that part because it's a large concept.
I will not explain, uh, just the relation of the conscious and the subconscious mind when it comes to money, just like in, in enough, in few simple words, if you want to like summarize.
तो सी द थ्री लेयर्स अनकॉन्शियस यू अंडरस्टैंड इट इज समथिंग विच स्टोर्स ऑल डाटा कॉन्शियस इज द वन दैट टेक्स एक्शंस बट तू टेक दैट एक्शन इट नीड्स तू रिलाय ऑन इनफॉरमेशन वो इनफॉरमेशन कहाँ से आती है वो सबकॉन्शियस से आती है सबकॉन्शियस डाटा लेता है अनकॉन्शियस से Does that make sense? Yes, it does. Does that answer your question? Yes. Perfect. Any other question?
Nothing. Thank you.
All right.
Thank you, Arvish. Bhavish, please unmute yourself. Bhavish, unmute yourself. Why am I not able to make Bhavish unmuted? भावेश को अनम्यूट क्यों नहीं कर पा रहे? Ask to unmute. या भावेश, please go ahead. Ask your question. No. भावेश, you are not able to unmute. Okay. ये Zoom user कौन है? I don't know. आपका नाम नहीं आ रहा है, तो I cannot take your name. Money matters कौन है? Money matters.
Ask Uh, hey, uh, Anita.
Yeah, hi.
Yeah, hi, good evening. So I, I just wanted to understand, you know, the formula you have said, right? Uh, like money, like there are 2 scenarios you have said. Like one is like how much money you need, right? That, uh, number of hours you work into, uh, you said, right? Another, like in future purpose, like number of hours you wanted to work in order to achieve that, right? Can you just explain that? Because I just lost because of internet issue. So if you don't mind, can you just explain it?
So जो formula होता है, आपका जो income होता है, that is equal to number of hours that you work in a month multiplied by your return on time invested. So basically, to calculate your return on time investment, we have to calculate the roti, right? So for that, आपका total income जो है, the total income that you make in a month has to be divided by number of hours that you work in a month. So if it is, uh, say for example, 3 lakhs is the total income and you are working 300 hours, so 3 lakh divided by 300, ₹1,000 would be your per hour roti. So now when you are aware of this per hour rate of yourself, that's how you will make decisions. So, uh, say for example, if you are cleaning your house and it is taking you an hour, it means you are spending ₹1,000 in cleaning your house. Does that answer your question? Money matters.
Yes.
Does that answer your question?
Yes, absolutely. Yeah.
Okay. All right. Any other question?
No, I'm good so far.
All right. Perfect.
Okay.
Thank you. Zoom user. Oh, to man. Try now.
Bhavesh.
Bhavesh कहाँ पर है? I can't see you, Bhavesh. Just a minute. Bhavesh, आपका hand open नहीं है। Bhavesh को ask करती हूँ मैं करने के। I'm not able to ask you to unmute. I don't know everybody else is able to do it. I'm not able to make you unmute. Ask to unmute? No, I can't make you unmute, Bhavesh. Sorry, can you type your question so that I can ask you in the chat box? मतलब I can answer your question in the chat box.
हाँ अब हाँ यस भावेश यस कैन यू हियर मी यस आई कैन हियर यू या या हाय इट वाज अ वेरी नीतू इट वाज अ वेरी अमेजिंग सेशन थैंक यू एंड क्वाइट इनफॉरमेटिव एंड आई एम कीन टू बी अ पार्ट ऑफ़ द सेशन टुमरो एस वेल आई द प्रॉब्लम विथ मी इज़ आई स्लिप इनटू देथ अगेन I was in debt. I came out so much so that I was able to buy my house. I was at probably stage four or five. Then somehow I don't know what happened, but I started losing everything again and I am again in the debt situation right now.
Okay. तो आपको लगता है क्या हुआ वहाँ पर? आप अपने comfort zone में वापस आ गए?
You know what working was also my comfort zone. जो मैं काम कर रहा था, वो भी मुझे बहुत अच्छा लग रहा था and I was very happy when I was working at At that levels, but post-COVID I think थोड़ा work levels में बहुत shuffling हुआ shifting हुआ and work started slowing down. So and because I had enough money to buy a house, house तो ले लिया EMIs are kind of a challenge at the moment to get this sorted. So I'm again to pay that EMIs and everything I'm falling in debt again. So how would you advise me to change my mindset to Come back to the earning phrase again.
तो ऐसे ही pattern को break करते रहेंगे, मतलब because आपका जो मतलब loop है ना, आप ये loop में हो, तो अगर आपने एक pattern को break करके दूसर मतलब you came out of your comfort zone, you earn more money, you bought a house, but then your mind का comfort zone नहीं है वो, so mind snapped you back to your hemostasis.
Oh okay.
ठीक है, तो आपको अपने hemostasis को change करना पड़ेगा, अपने comfort zone को change करना पड़ेगा, उसके लिए बहुत सारे techniques होते हैं। Those happens in my advanced classes.
अच्छा, अच्छा। And how do I get more information about that?
We'll talk about it tomorrow if you want to know more about it.
Great, great. Okay, all right. So I'll be there tomorrow for another session as well.
Sure.
But are you sure कि वो वहाँ होता है? Because I was able to come out for at least a good span of four, five, six years, I guess.
Then you tell me what happened. क्यों आप वापस चले गए उसमें? Wrong decisions?
Maybe the slowdown of the business and the wrong decisions.
Did you not take the right actions at that time when the business was slowing down?
Yes, yes, I think so.
Who is feeding you these, you know, data to take those wrong decisions?
Maybe the comfort zone.
The subconscious mind, जिसने comfort zone बना रखा है। हम्म हम्म हम्म हम्म। तो इसीलिए हमलोग गलत actions लेते हैं, गलत decisions करते हैं उस time पे so that we can come back to our comfort zone. आप जो कर रहे थे, it was outside your comfort zone.
Okay, okay.
Excitement था, but it was unsafe for the mind, and that is why it was feeding you data so that you can come back to the comfort zone. The best possible way to come out of this problem is to change the comfort zone. It takes time and effort. So you mean to say the comfort zone should be earning money should be my comfort zone rather than thinking about how to earn money comfort zone को change करने के लिए आपको अपने mind में internal image change करनी पड़ती है भावेश अपनी okay okay so there must be internal image का जो हमने financial audit किया था ना उस audit में आपका कुछ बिगड़ा हुआ होगा correct correct okay तो वो image change करनी है तब mind का comfort zone change होगा उसका image को change करने के लिए techniques होते हैं जहाँ पे आपके visuals को आपके auditory रिसेप्टर्स को आपके काइनेस्थेसिया को इन्वॉल्व किया जाता है तू चेंज द कंफर्ट ज़ोन। I gave you a technique अभी ना, वहाँ पर इफ़ यू सी व्हाट वी डिड, वी इन्वॉल्व्ड विजुअल्स, वी इन्वॉल्व्ड साउंड्स। करेक्ट। एंड वी इन्वॉल्व्ड इन यू नो इमोशंस। करेक्ट। ऐसे ही कंफर्ट ज़ोन को चेंज किया ज और भी दिया उसको। There are chances that you come back again.
Yes. So you have to follow a pattern probably.
You have to create a pattern for that, so that mind of comfort zone set हो जाए उस pattern में। So that pattern follows when you repeat it at a set interval, maybe twice a day, thrice a day or seven days a week, maybe whatever, whatever जो भी एक कोई set रहेगा, set करने के लिए आपको उसको एक particular day तक follow करना पड़ता है every single day. Understood.
ठीक है, ठीक है। So I'm I'm keen to look forward for the tomorrow's session then.
Thank you so much.
Thank you, Ritu.
Thank you. Okay, और किसका hand raised है? और किसका है? Kaushiki, your hand is still raised. Do you have another question? If not, please put your hand down. Who is the Zoom user?
Hello.
Yes, please. I'll go ahead. What's your name, by the way? Shubham.
Can you hear me?
Yes, I can hear you. What is your name?
Shubham it is. तो नहीं तो प्रॉब्लम ये है ना कि सी अर्निंग मनी एंड गेटिंग फाइनेंशियली स्टेबल यू नो आई डोंट थिंक ऑफ मेरा पर्सनल्स पर्सपेक्टिव कि मुझे सब कुछ फास्ट करना है बट यू नो एस सुनेस आई टर्न 26 पहले पहले अर्ली स्टेज में दस हजार रुपए एक बहुत बड़ा माउंट नहीं लगता था टू स्पेंड है ना We can't just spend ten thousand rupees on anything like that. We have to save money lifestyle के लिए वगैरह वगैरह। Then I you know shifted to Pune घर से अलग रहके job करने के लिए। So now what happened what's happening is you know there are few important events जो time पे होना चाहिए like buying house, getting married, having a stable you know future and all। जब time constraint होता है कि चलो दो साल है मेरे पास to sort everything out and you know you suddenly realized कि अभी हमें समझ में आया कि financial स्टेबिलिटी क्या होती है? अभी हम पैसे को समझ रहे हैं। Like I have started understanding मनी कि ये पैसा होता है, बचाना भी जरूरी है, सिर्फ खर्चा करना नहीं, because then बाहर आ गए initially नहीं पता था पैसे कितने स्पेंड करने, कहाँ स्पेंड करने, सेव भी करना होता है। किसने सिखाया नहीं, because घर में किसको आइडिया नहीं था, you know लोग का तो ज़िंद Of two years that I want to sort everything out in two years is you know hitting me really hard and breaking me every time.
But then put your अपना what is your question, Shubham?
That that is the question you know this time frame which is hitting me every time. How do I fix this or what would you advise me?
What is this time frame? Who gave you this time frame?
I'm twenty six need to get married into by twenty eight years. ठीक है जब मैं दो साल में मुझे शादी करना है and within that time frame I have to buy a house as well. क्योंकि डेट इज एन वेरी इम्पोर्टेन्ट एंटिटी फॉर मी टू यू नो गेट मैरिड बहुत पर्सनल रिलेशनशिप की बात हो जाती है गिव यू दैट फीड मतलब किसने बोला आपको कि जरूरी है आह मैं भी जिससे मैं शादी करने वाला हूँ उसके घर में जब रिक्वायरमेंट है कि यू नो गाइस नीड टू हैव इज नहीं मेरे साथ शादी करेगी but to stay somewhere right क्योंकि मेरा ऑफिस सब पुणे में है and then जहाँ मैं रहता हूँ you know we cannot accommodate अगर इतना स्ट्रेस दे रहा है तो आप रेंट पे ले लो क्या दिक्कत है या वो तो चलो बात है then you know that's वो why are you racing against time सुभम why are you racing against time क्या है why are you racing against time I don't know मैंने ये शायद से ये अपने लिए बना लिया है कि करना if you don't race against time what would it mean about you कोर्स मैं टाइम अगर नहीं होता तो यू नो आई वुड हैव सॉर्टेड एवरीथिंग इन फाइव इयर्स इस माय प्लान यू नो मैं मैं अपने माइंड में वेरी क्लियर हूँ कि इफ यू सॉर्टेड इन इफ यू आर नॉट एबल टू सॉर्टेड इन टू इयर्स व्हाट वुड इट मीन अबाउट यू आंसर दैट क्वेश्चन आई डोंट नो If I do not complete it in 2 years, then I am— I'll be lost, you know. I have to restart my life, you know, rewiring everything.
Yeah, so I'll be lost, which means I'm a loser.
Correct. That's what the fear is, right?
So this is the belief that you're carrying about yourself. We will address this tomorrow.
Sure. Thank you, Anany. Thank you for, you know, giving me this advice. You know, you need someone to bifurcate everything and show you the reality which I'm not able to think of.
And is there a way, you know, where if you are feeling, if your internal image is that of a loser, आप कितना भी घर खरीद लो, कितना भी financial security बना लो, you will still feel like a loser and you will always have this stress.
Correct.
And also, is there any way to, you know, have a personal session or you kind of do that where we can sit around for an hour or two to understand exactly what situation? I can tell you everything, then you can help me understand.
We can talk about it. We can talk about it.
Later. All right, all right. Thank you so much.
Thank you. Mangesh, you have a question? Please go ahead, ask your question. Um, yeah, please, Mangesh, go ahead, ask your question.
Yeah, hi, good evening. Hello, good evening all. Okay, so the last, last, uh, activity we did in this session, okay, so everything went right, but the moment the— it ended, I was not able to disassociate with it.
As in what happened?
I mean I was not able to let it go. I mean since somehow it is associated with my body.
तो आपको last में table खाली दिखा? हाँ. Last में table खाली था तो वो gave it to you.
But immediately I again thought of it and then it was like the problem is still there.
So like it might take time. Problem नहीं दिखा तो फिर से technique लगाएंगे. रोटी एक बार में गोल नहीं बनती कभी-कभी. हाँ हाँ मैं भी वो या डेट इज़ व्हाट आई वो एक बार करो हाँ किसी के माइंड के अंदर क्या है कि मंगेश मेनी टाइम हैप्पेंस द ट्रॉमा इज़ सो डीप दैट फर्स्ट टाइम में टेक्निक में माइंड उसको रेजिस्ट करता है बट इफ यू कीप डूइंग इट देन यू कैन कम आउट ऑफ़ दिस प्रॉब्लम ओके तो अगर एक ब Anyone else has any question? ठीक है, तो आज का क्या takeaway रहा? Please मुझे जरा chat box में बताइए। What is it that you learned today? What is it that you learned today? Let me know। जो आपका biggest takeaway रहा है आज का, what is it that you have learned? The biggest takeaway, let me know in the chat box। हम्म Very good. रोटी के बारे में पता चला, relations with money, hemostasis के बारे में पता चला, money is just store of value. Yes, yes, very good. अगर ये भी आपको समझ में आ जाए ना तो बहुत काम हो जाएगा आपका। Subconscious, unconscious mind. Yes, हमलोग सिर्फ ऊपर वाले layer पे the conscious mind जो है ना उसको बार-बार refine कर रहे हैं। उसी के ऊपर काम कर रहे हैं, नए-नए स्किल्स सीख रहे हैं। लेकिन, लेकिन जो हमारे इमोशनल ट्रॉमाज अंदर बॉडी में फंसे हुए हैं, जो सबकॉन्शियस माइंड में फंसा हुआ है, उसको हमलोग इग्नोर कर रहे हैं। तो कितना भी स्किल सेट आप अक्वायर कर लो, अगर माइंड सेट नहीं है, तो यू विल एंड अप मेक Being confident on your work, rarity and homeostasis. Yes, yes. चलो तो आज जल्दी खत्म हो गया सेशन। I hope to see you all tomorrow because tomorrow we have more techniques coming up and we will talk about self and disassociation with self in more detail tomorrow and I'm so excited to have you tomorrow. Everybody who will join on both the days and complete the whole program, they will get the recording. Of 2 days and also my book, the best-selling book, cup PDF. Oh, okay. All right, thank you everyone. With that, I'll bring this to a close and see you tomorrow. Thank you. Bye-bye.
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