Omar Zenhom argues that accepting full responsibility for your situation is the key to change. He spent years blaming his parents, circumstances, and race before realizing that claiming ownership of his choices let him actually fix things.
Everything's your fault. And that's actually a great thing. It's good news. I know that sounds harsh, but in a large part, where you are is a direct output of the choices you made up to this point. It's just the facts. Most people react with defensiveness. They say, "This is not my fault." Don't do that. I used to be a victim myself. I had this huge blame list where I blamed everybody but myself, of course. I blamed my parents. I blamed my circumstances. I blamed the fact that I didn't come from money. I blamed the fact that I was a minority. I blamed, I blamed, I blamed, but I never actually took responsibility. And what happened is when I took ownership and said to myself, everything's my fault, so I need to take ownership and be the owner of the solution. Things started to change. If your decisions got you here, then your decisions can get you somewhere else. Victims are stuck. Don't be a victim.
