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Addiction Lies to Them First #addictionawareness #addictionhelp #addictionstruggles

19 Oct 2026 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker argues that addictions begin by presenting themselves as beneficial to the user and their loved ones, effectively ‘lying’ to them. The speaker explains that many substances and behaviors initially provide short‑term functional advantages—such as alcohol reducing social awkwardness, opiates increasing productivity, cocaine enabling late‑night work, cannabis offering relaxation, extreme dieting improving appearance, Xanax easing anxiety, and gambling appearing to solve financial problems. These perceived benefits create a narrative that the individual needs the substance for relief and better functioning, which fuels the addiction’s early growth.

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Then we can see how that entity has to be a liar. And the initial person to whom it needs to lie is its host, our loved one. Initially, all addictions actually work for our loved ones, and this is how they get fed from the very beginning. What I mean by this is when they first start using or doing whatever their addictive behavior is, the beer makes them less socially awkward. The opiates allow them to get more done. These are things that the addiction lies to our loved ones with. The coke makes them stay up later, get more done. The weed lets them relax and have fun. Starving themselves makes them thinner and they look better in their clothes. The Xanax makes them less anxious and more able to function, to go to school, to go to social events, to go to parties. The gambling solves their money problems. What all of this has in common is the ability to function better for whatever reason. And their narrative tells them that they need the relief.