Episode 256: A Birthday Weekend to Remember

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Oh, we added some percussion.

The beat is wrong.

The beat is wrong.

Yes.

You know what they say about the beat?

The beat goes on and on and on and on. Thank you, Ella. Yep. Well, you ready to talk about my birthday weekend?

Yes, I am.

Are you sure about that? Are you sure about that?

There's the bus. Going by that I'm under.

Uh, yeah, he kind of screwed up my birthday weekend, but that's all right. There was a lot of good too. Should we talk about— let's talk about the good stuff first.

That's fabulous.

I love you.

Yep.

So when you lease cars every 3 years, when the lease is up, you gotta get new cars.

Yes.

So we knew that part. Okay, we didn't know what we were in for with the car market. Right? Did you know?

I did not know.

I knew a tad bit. I didn't know the extremity of what's going on. So we started the weekend picking up cars, but it wasn't an easy journey, and we learned a lot. And we want to warn you, and we want to tell you a little bit about what we learned on our car journey.

Yes.

So we went in expecting to get certain types of SUVs for Seth.

Yes.

Okay, there is nothing available. Um, we were struggling with Toyotas, we were struggling with, um, there's no Hondas. We were warned not even to look at Honda. Uh, we were gonna look at Nissans. There's not a lot out there. So we learned to be more open-minded than we were used to. We learned to be more flexible.

Yes, and to consider things we wouldn't normally have considered.

We We learned that it really helps when you're working with someone that you're comfortable with because she knew what we wanted. She knew our price range. She knew the style car we needed. And she did her database search and we got a phone call that there was one Subaru.

Yep.

All blacked out.

Yep.

Waiting for my husband.

I wasn't specific. The blacked out, I didn't even know that was a thing. I was not asking for that. That's just how it happened to be.

So Seth had not heard of blacked out before. I had to explain to him what that meant. Yes, I had heard of it. I think it's super cool. I think it's super masculine. I'm glad, I'm glad that he could get a blacked out Subaru. So we went and drove it and we liked it, but we never would have considered it.

Never, right? We certainly weren't looking for one of those.

Never would have considered it. So it was in our price range. It's bigger than the Traverse was inside.

It was available. We could take it home like that day. Yeah, there was not a long, long wait. You want to talk about the wait?

Oh, talk about the wait.

If you're shopping for a car right now, or if you're going to need a car sometime soon, start now, because she's waiting for her car, and it may be by the time she gets it, she may have waited a year from when it was supposed to be.

I think it's going to be over a year, but we'll see.

So if you got a 3-year lease and you're on year 2, you need to start shopping for the car now.

Excellent advice. Seth said you need to be creative in your problem solving, like look at what other options there are. What else did we learn? I'm trying to see.

Take something that they got on the lot.

Oh my God, so my dad does not like the idea of ordering a car. He is a very, very smart man, and when I got my Traverse 3 years ago, did not love the Traverse. I'm not a fan of Chevy, I don't think. Probably shouldn't generalize, right?

Corvette might be fabulous.

I wouldn't get another Traverse, how about that?

Yeah, you did not like your Traverse for you.

So I've been driving the Subaru and it drives so nice, so smooth. The girls and I have been all over with it, we love it. And, and I said to Ella, like, it doesn't feel— there's Emily!

Emily, we're talking about Subaru.

So Ella and I were like, it doesn't feel like we're driving a truck, like it feels like we're driving a car. And we were saying how wonderful you are with your creative problem solving, and that we never would have thought of a Subaru, and we love it, we love it, we love it. So summarize our lessons: there's wait lists, get on a wait list. I was telling you, my dad told me when I got my Traverse— the Traverse is out, see ya— my dad was like, don't order a Telluride. It's gonna, it's gonna take forever, but get something on the lot. He was like, do not go order something. That's what he told me with the Traverse. Well, I listened with the Traverse. I might not have listened this time, but we did get the Subaru. We were— Emily was creative in her problem solving. Um, what else did we tell them? Adjust your expectations.

You might not get what you want. You might not end up with something even better than what you thought you wanted, right?

Right. Oh, and I wrote down make quick decisions.

Yeah, which is not necessarily your strongest suit, except when it comes to babies and puppies.

Oh, we'll talk about that at the end too.

Fabulous.

Oh my gosh, Emily, I went to see puppies today. But anyways, I digress. We learned a lot on our car journey. We learned we needed to be creative. We learned we needed to be flexible. And we learned that something that we get might be more wonderful than what we ever would have thought of. Yeah, so tell your wonderful car people what you're looking for.

We do not need another puppy, Emily.

We're gonna talk about it. We're gonna talk about it.

Cancel the other cars, we're not getting any more.

Hey, be nice to her, she's very good to us.

I, I'm being funny.

I don't even remember what thought I was saying. Do you remember what thought I was saying?

No. We're moving right along then.

Um, The car journey was interesting. We're not done with it. No, but keep an open mind. Tell your car people what you're looking for. This is my price range. Yeah, this is the style car I want. Let them do their magic. She did lots of magic for us, and they can search the database, see what's available, get what's on the lot, because there's not a lot. There's not a lot on the lot. So good luck car shopping, everybody.

Yes.

That was an interesting adventure for us, wasn't it?

It was.

And then I got my lobster.

Yes, your birthday lobster.

I've been having lobster for my birthday since I was like 10 years old. So that's a long time.

It's a lot of lobsters.

It's a lot of lobsters. My kids made me an awesome orange chocolate cake.

We still have some in the garage, by the way. Um, probably eat that.

I probably should remind them because I bet you they forgot. And then the next day, at my birthday— yes, my actual birthday, uh, Lily decorated the table. Seth showed up with coffee and donuts, and they, they're trained. I'm gonna tell you, train your family.

Yes. So they're like, no, I'm getting up.

They're like, well, no, I'm not worried about the donuts, okay? I'm not worried about that. The donuts were lovely, honey. They're like, where are you gonna, where are you gonna make us go?

The forced family fun.

Seth, Max is like, where are we going? What are we doing? Because they know that my birthday equals a family adventure.

Yes.

So my original thought was Darien Lake, and Max was like moaning at the table. He was so tired. I mean, Seth was like, who cares, he'll be fine. Like, he'll suck it up and go. But it was hot out. I don't know that it was the best day for Darian Lake.

Well, it ended up being too hot where we went, so—

well, they would have just been in the water park the whole time.

Or that—

I wanted to go to Griffith Sculpture Park, but it was too hot, too hot, and they were moaning about that. They will moan and complain, so adjust your expectations. You may train your kids that you're going to want to go on a family adventure on your birthday. That doesn't mean they're not going to whine. Right, right.

That doesn't make you suffer for it.

So I was like, let's go to Canada.

And Max actually liked that idea, probably because he thought there'd be a lot less walking and it would take a lot less time then.

Or, or did it have to do with the fact that he was going to get Swiss Chalet? He, he does like food.

Yes.

So if you know, you know. Did you grow up with Swiss Chalet like I did? We grew up with Swiss Chalet.

Yes.

Did you get excited when your family got Swiss Chalet or no?

I don't remember any feelings associated. I, I just— it was nice. I don't remember if I got excited or not. It didn't mean as much to me as it does to you.

Okay, well, I associate— I did that and told them it was a surprise.

Kelly says the surprise was Shakespeare in the park. They were not thrilled.

Oh my gosh, but I love that you surprised them. That's what I should do next time. Get in the car, it's surprise, and then they're just thrown wherever they're thrown.

Yes.

Don't discuss it with them. Don't give them an option. My friends are always like, well, my kids don't want to. Well, I don't— I'm not asking them, right? Um, he does back me up. Yes, that does help. He's like, get in the car, let's go. So off to Canada we went. We got Swiss Chalet. We walked around the falls. They moaned that it was too hot. I looked at the beautiful falls. I had a good time. The kids complained about the heat. Exactly, they survived and you got your choice and you got to bring your kids with you. I agree, I 100% agree. My kids do not like the heat. So as I was walking around in the heat in Buffalo, New York, well, it was Canada, it wasn't Buffalo, New York, an hour from us, I was like, Seth, do you know where I'm glad we aren't right now?

Where, honey?

Do you remember where? Well, Florida, right? Because if they're complaining about the heat here, can you imagine? Can you imagine?

9 degrees hotter. I checked in Florida.

Oh my gosh. Okay, so we did the whole falls thing.

Yes.

And then they all moaned about the line to leave the falls.

The line going back across the border took a while.

So note to self: The GPS took us a longer route to Swish LA that I was bitching about, and I realized that Seth was just following the GPS, and I did not intercept the GPS to go the route that I wanted. On the way back, I realized that the reason why the GPS took us a longer way was to avoid the very long line at the Rainbow Bridge.

Yes, it always has a reason, you just don't know what it is.

And he's like sitting at the Rainbow Bridge in a long line going, this is why, this is why we go the other way.

Siri does know a thing or two.

I don't tend to always be amused by the GPS.

It's not about being amused, you like to fight with her.

Well, because sometimes the routes that the GPS come up with makes no sense to me because you can't see the bigger picture, right?

You couldn't see the line. Right, that she was avoiding because she's wonderful.

Okay, and I understand that you have a better relationship.

Yes, I get along very well.

Hear me out for a second. I live here, I know how to get most places. If you put stuff into the GPS, sometimes it will take you through some really strange turns that you don't even need to do unless there's a reason. Okay, we're gonna agree to disagree.

Yes, we are.

Okay, let's move on to the end of my birthday weekend. The end of my birthday weekend was not fun. I'm gonna give you and I two pointers— not you, them and me— pointers for birthdays. Don't discuss anything important. Don't let anything aggravate you.

Yep, I agree with that.

Don't expect the day to go perfect either. I did not, I did not expect that, especially with children. So first Ella tells me she changed her high school schedule without talking to me.

You got upset about that.

And I was like, what on earth did I miss and why is this coming up now? So I have some counselors to talk to at middle school and high school about her schedule, and I was like, rule number one You are not allowed to change your schedule without talking to your mother. I thought I did. I thought I swore they had a permission slip. There was no permission slip. I'm sorry, they used to have to. It's okay, it's okay, it's okay. We're getting past it. So aggravation number one— well, aggravation number one was the whiny children about how hot it was.

Number two, although I will comment that there were times that you were whining about how hot it was.

The children were not the only ones who were whiny.

That's true, I was the only one who didn't whine.

Okay, number 2: you are the most flexible and go with the flow of the group of us.

Wow, that's almost going to make up for all the bad things you're about to say about me.

I'm not going to say bad things.

Well, they would be true.

Constructive things.

Okay, all right, we'll do a lot of reconstruction.

Okay, so number 1 was the heat complaints.

Yeah.

Number 2 was the Ella casually telling me that she changed her schedule. Don't talk about important things on my birthday next year.

Other than how much you love me.

Just make a note and talk to me about it the next day. I don't even remember how it came up.

I don't either.

You just randomly remembered.

Oh, by the way, I dropped a class.

By the way, I dropped something that's really important. It's not really important.

It's really important to your mother.

No, it's really important to her. She just doesn't understand yet. Okay, number 3. Moving on to number 3.

Number 3.

Seth and I, my family from the other side of the country— yes, family from different parts of the country are coming together for my nephew's bar mitzvah in July.

Yes.

So I brought it up. Foolish, foolish. Don't talk about trips planning.

You didn't bring it up out of the blue. You received some communication that caused you to ask a question. And in the beginning we were fine because you said, hey, can we go home on this day if my relatives are in town for another day? And I said I didn't know, I had to check my schedule when we got home. And that was fine. It was when I checked my schedule that things went downhill.

So Seth is— so there's a new Rebecca here today.

Oh, all right.

Who was not here the day that this was—

she was not.

I understand. That Seth— I, I'm finally grasping that Seth is booked up for months in advance.

Yes, the appointment I have in July on that day was booked in March. Okay, 4 months in advance.

Okay, so he books months in advance. He has a packed schedule. He's busy all the time. And I used to, even before this, even before this argument, get really annoyed by his like text or call like, I'm busy, like I'm in a meeting, I'm running a webinar, like I'm busy, like what do you mean?

I was literally running a webinar when you wanted to talk about puppies.

We might have FaceTimed him with a puppy today during a meeting. She FaceTimed you!

Notice she did it from her— your phone, because if she'd done it from her phone, I probably wouldn't have called.

No, I didn't even know where my phone was.

I thought you did it strategically. There was no Ella, so I would answer.

There was no strategic plan. She was holding her phone. I was holding the puppy.

All right, I see how you are. Oh my God, moving right along.

So I used to get really, really annoyed, like, oh my God, he's so busy, he's so important. Now I appreciate it. And I know that it is supporting our family and providing for us. So I have changed my thought process. The day that we were arguing— yeah, yes, it wasn't that I forgot, it was the frustration that the trips tend to be shorter than I want based on Seth needing to work.

Yep.

And I'm trying to be understanding in general, whether it's Orlando or Virginia or wherever we travel to, it does tend to be shorter than what I want to plan.

Yes.

So I think we both need to learn to communicate, compromise, adjust things maybe a little bit. For sure. Uh, Seth is like, you have to plan trips months in advance so that I can block off the time.

Yep.

So everything has to be really— like, we can't— it's hard for him to do last-minute things.

Yep.

It's hard for him when I say—

and even last minute is a month, 30 days before, right? This is a month in advance. It's still— that's still, to me, to my schedule, that's spontaneous.

So it's like for you, when I get the date of the fun run I have to tell you in like September.

Yes.

To block off in June.

Hey, because Dan Kennedy does his schedule a year in advance.

I'm just saying that like telling Seth in June, did I tell you about the fun run on this date? And he's like, I can't come, right?

You gave me a week's notice. That's not enough time.

Well, that's a whole nother conversation about trying to get a date.

I remember you trying to get a date.

So people, that was very challenging. But we got in a fight.

Yes.

On my birthday.

Yes.

It was not fun.

No, it just made it worse because you had birthday expectations and every other line out of your mouth was, but it's my birthday. And I'm like, okay, well, let's stop talking about this. And then you refuse to stop talking about it.

So I just think that on my birthday I expect him to be super nice.

Like, was it that I— I was trying. If you said, can you take the day off? Can we go another day? I said no. It should have ended there. Had you not— I'll fully own my stuff— had you not reacted and gotten mad and started escalating, then it would have just been over and I would have been a perfect husband all day and we would have been fine. You got upset and started throwing some comments out there and generalizing some things, and I screwed up and didn't stay calm for your birthday and didn't let you just do whatever you want, yell whatever you want on your birthday. I reacted and tried to defend myself and made it worse. I freely admit that.

I think that you could have been a lot nicer.

I agree, and I apologize that I re-escalated after you escalated. You started it, I made it worse, and then it kept going. And I— every time it kept going, I apologize for my part.

My comments were not reactive comments. My comments were comments.

I'm gonna respectfully disagree. Did not feel like an unemotionally charged, non-blaming language, objective, logical comment.

I remember being in the pool very calm.

Well, we weren't speaking at that point, so that's how you were that calm.

You were speaking on the deck. You were speaking.

Because again, I was trying to be quiet and stop, and you just kept talking about it. You might recall some of it.

Seth was done talking.

Well, because I just— I couldn't make it— I wasn't doing a good job. I was making it worse every time I said anything. So I figured, I'm making this worse every time, I should shut up. But somebody didn't let me.

He was definitely making it worse every time he talked. That is accurate.

I freely admit and apologize for that again.

I'm sorry that I expected a nice husband on my birthday.

Oh, you see, that's a backhanded insult. I'm sorry I expected you to be so nice on my birthday. So you just insulted me. You're not sorry at all. You're sorry that I screwed up. A real apology would have been, I'm sorry I escalated and made the whole thing turn into a thing.

I was pissed, understandably.

Okay, no, no, no, no, no. 'Can you— can we go home a day later?' 'No, I can't do that. I've had something scheduled for 4 months.' 'Okay, bummer. End of discussion. No one's upset.' It was after I said no that you escalated and got upset, and then it went all downhill, and I made it worse every time. But it could have just been over in 2 seconds. Can you now, in hindsight, see that it could have just ended if you hadn't persisted?

I know I can understand my frustration.

That's not what I asked. Very clever. Seriously, woman. She's like Jedi mind tricks over here with the words. You gotta listen really intently to figure out, you know what, she didn't answer the question. She's like a politician. She didn't answer the question you asked and she insulted you while you answered the wrong question. How do you— that is amazing. Did they teach you that in therapy school? Is this a Rebecca invention?

Oh my gosh.

So it's very impressive.

So what was the question?

What was the question? Can you see in retrospect how if I said— when I said no, you just said okay, there would have been no fight?

I do.

It's a yes or no question.

Yes.

Thank you.

End of discussion.

And, and Ella's got the ringside seats.

And why did I get frustrated?

You got frustrated because I didn't just say yes. Of course I'll move whatever.

No, why did I get frustrated? That's not the answer.

I said no, you got mad, and then I got worse. If you are saying that you were mad at my reaction, you were absolutely right.

But no, I, I got mad because of your reaction.

Yes, because how I communicated it.

Yes, but I was upset because this is the pattern. Because this is a pattern in our marriage that I ask to stay somewhere longer and the answer tends to be, "I have to work," which is just how it is.

I apologize that not all people work according to my crazy schedule.

He's a busy man.

And people are buying still— I don't know if plane tickets have been bought. I don't know if dates have been firmed. For all I know, they may pick up plane tickets the day, a week before.

So everybody doesn't operate like Seth. Everybody does not plan things months in advance, which could make it challenging.

Sure.

So Seth was—

I'm challenging them. They're challenging me.

Seth needs things to be planned months in advance. That is what Seth needs. Seth is very busy. That doesn't always fly with your wife and other people.

Very true. I freely admit that.

So I understand that you're busy. I understand that you work a lot, and I understand that you're providing for your family. I understand all of that, and I understand that I need to appreciate that. And I understand that you need to see where I'm coming from sometimes.

I totally see where you're coming from. I drive you crazy. I know that. You know, I got a great idea that you're gonna hate. Okay, we, we, we could spend less money and I could provide less and work less.

Hahaha.

See, it didn't go over very well, did it? So it's, hey, what else can I buy? And so I'll go work more, but take more time off, but work more, but make more money. There's a little balance I'm trying to walk. It's a tightrope.

I'm trying to help over here. Trying to help.

You make good money, honey.

I'm saying I'm trying to contribute.

You're succeeding at contributing, right?

I'm trying not to put the whole thing on you.

I appreciate that. The whole thing—

my paycheck might not equal Seth's paycheck.

I don't expect it to.

So what— so what did we learn from fighting on my birthday?

Uh, well, we should fight a lot better than we fought. We both kept escalating it, making it worse. I would love to have— I shouldn't have reacted when you reacted. I should have tried to calm you down and delay the conversation to another day, or talk about it when we were more resourceful. I should have immediately tried to, um, make, make you feel better on your birthday the second you got upset. Maybe I shouldn't have even said no on your birthday. Maybe I should have said 'Hang on, I got a check,' and done it then. 'I'm not sure about my calendar,' and done it the next day. So had I known— I had no idea. I was just answering yes or no question. I didn't know it was going to turn into a thing. I wouldn't have said anything if I had known.

Definitely don't plan things like trips and don't discuss planning. Don't have intense discussions on your birthday and don't make it an intense conversation.

That's, that part, part of that's on me.

I think that we were not getting in each other's shoes at all. No, I think that we were not thinking the fact that reactivity was not going to get us anywhere.

No, we just kept making it worse. I'm sorry.

So when you want to take a break from me, this is what I taught him. So Seth does not like feeling abandoned during a conversation, okay? He doesn't like to feel like I just left the room. And I'm gone and I'm done. Well, it goes both ways. It goes both ways, and we talked about this. You have told me that you don't like when I do this, so I maybe taught you that, which isn't good.

Yes.

So we were outside and Seth just like walked away, and I was like—

it's not entirely accurate. We were in the pool and kept aggravating each other. So I tried to swim laps and swim my feelings out to get into a more resourceful state. And after 30 or so plus laps, when it wasn't working, I then got out and went inside to do weights because I was still— I, I wasn't exhausted enough to not be mad. So I wasn't avoiding you, I was trying to get to a more resourceful state. So I apologize if it looked like I was running. I wasn't running away from you. I was trying to get my feelings out through physical exercise so I could have a better conversation with you.

Okay, well, that whole thing did not work for me at all. And what it looked like was the silent treatment. So what he could have done, and what he has— what he has requested from me, yes, is what I am requesting from him, yep, is to tell me what's going on. Yes, because I'm sorry, it just made me angrier.

I totally should have told you You are 100% right.

So we weren't appreciating each other, and, uh, I was not feeling treated as an equal.

No, I apologize.

So he's doing much better today at our conversation.

Yes, we had a much better conversation about what could be an important life decision other than just travel days today.

He think— he learned from our fight. Yes. I learned to be more appreciative. Seth learned how to treat me more like an equal, because normally I would say I'm pretty good at it.

Just, I really sucked in that conversation.

You might have sucked in that conversation.

I might have. I did.

So in treating me like an equal, I said, can we have a rational conversation?

And about Something that makes you in no way rational.

Um, so our conversation on Sunday did not go well, but so today is Wednesday.

Yes.

So 3 days later, we learned from our mistakes and we sat down and had a calm conversation about a puppy that we will need to go finish.

Yes, we have to finish that conversation, but at least He is being calm. Yes.

Reasonable.

Yes.

Open-minded.

Yes. I'm not dismissing your desire or your feeling.

Well, it's not— it— you don't— what I'm trying to tell Seth is he doesn't have to say yes for me to feel like an equal. He just has to make me feel heard. Yes.

Understood.

Like conversation going back and forth, not I'm working, end of conversation, and we're not talking about any of this. It just felt— understandably, he needs to work.

I, I didn't say all of that stuff at the first response. The first response was just, no, I can't. It was— the other stuff came after your reaction to my no. True or false?

So don't try to plan a trip with Seth. Unless it's months in advance. And don't expect Seth to take off as many days as you would like him to take off because he's gonna twitch that he needs to come back and work. But my friend said, just be glad that he's willing to take off and willing to take vacations. So that was a very nice point. So like, people who haven't taken vacation in years, so So I'm gonna give us all a trick, all of us, every single one.

I'm ready.

This is the trick. So we know comparison is the thief of joy.

Yes.

You may see people taking 10-day vacations and go, oh my goodness, I could never get my husband to take a 10-day vacation. I don't think Seth would ever go away for 10 days. Maybe he would work remotely on the trip.

Yeah, I'd have to. Okay, shit has to get done.

He can't even consider it.

Well, somebody's gotta like do payroll.

Okay, babe, I'm not done.

Collect money and pay money.

You didn't let me finish.

Give me 10, 15 minutes a day. I'm teaching, I'm teaching, I'm educating the educator.

He's twitching at the suggestion of a 10-day vacation. He is twitching. So You see how my husband is? He, he wants to go on shorter vacations than his wife does. Understandable.

Or I need to hire someone who can do what I need to do while I'm gone. Okay, that would be a compromise.

Listen, futuristic goals. We don't need to go on a 10-day vacation. I'm just trying—

you know, you think I'm the only one. Your kids don't last 10 days.

Okay, can I finish?

Yes.

Okay. So you might see people going on 10-day vacations, bastards, but there are people who aren't going on vacation at all.

That's right.

So if we compare ourselves to people who have more, do more, yes, we will feel worse.

Yes.

If you appreciate— stop it! If you—

I was educated.

If you appreciate what you do have and see that some people don't even have that, yeah, then you'll feel a lot better.

Some people don't even have one pet, let alone already have three. You're comparing yourself to somebody who has like—

I am not comparing.

Yes, I know exactly who she is.

I'm not.

I have seven cats and two dogs.

I am not.

We're so far behind. We need more pets. You only have three. Those poor animals need homes. No one else ever will adopt them.

Honey, I am not comparing myself to anyone.

Okay, just checking, because sometimes I'm thinking—

I'm actually thinking about the people who have no pets and their house is a lot cleaner than mine.

Well, we should donate our pets to them so that they have a chance to have a pet.

Man, are we entertaining our daughter today.

We have to help those less fortunate people who don't have 3 pets.

Well, I'm keeping Tanner though. Hey, he's keeping Tanner, the dog that he didn't want.

Exactly.

He did not want Tanner. Tanner, I wanted you. You're here because you're not supposed to tell the kids this stuff.

It psychologically damages them.

Oh my God, I think Ella thinks we're her hysterical tonight.

Hopefully some of you are amused by this. Okay, give us some love in the chat.

So it was an interesting birthday weekend. It ended— it started amazing with new cars. Yes, it ended crappy fighting with my husband.

Yes, but you also did get donuts and coffee and a Swiss Chalet and jewelry. Well, so, and you weren't supposed to get a present.

I was shocked that you got me a present because I thought the pool was my present.

It wasn't. I gave you jewelry too.

I— honey, you did so much right. We fought and it sucked, and I'm sorry we fought.

Me too.

And I will always remember that we fought on my birthday.

No, 20 years from now you will remember the earrings. You will not remember because you'll be wearing them. You will not remember the stupid fight.

Let's hope you're right. Next year, we're not talking about anything important on my birthday. I'm gonna say I'm not here, I'm on vacation. I'm not talking about that. Let's plan it.

Your mental vacation. That's what you should ask for for your birthday, a mental vacation.

A mental vacation. What does that look like? Oh, not talking about anything important.

There you go. It just took a second for the bulb to go.

Oh my God. So hopefully I can prevent somebody else from having a difficult conversation on their birthday. Yes, don't do it. So, um, I did not check who was going to be on the podcast. I wonder if it's Elena Robinson. It's a surprise because hers was one that I was really excited for, and it's going to help you manage your children because she talks about how the brain developmentally works through the years and was one of the most impressive people that I've talked to.

Awesome.

So I think it might be her.

Okay.

So listen to the podcast on Friday. Last Friday was my birthday special, which we did, right? So, um, Seth and Lily did an awesome interview with me. So go listen if you didn't. It was— they did such a good job. And, uh, we got through my weekend onto bigger and better, onto July. July's around the corner. So we will start the new July challenge in the Whiny, Clueless, and Mom group. So ask me if you want to join. It's a private Facebook group. Goal is to support each other. So ask me if you'd like an invitation, and I hope your summer is starting off wonderfully. And, uh, anything else?

I think you covered it.

Are you coming over? I am.

Um, you gotta sing for your energy. All our entertainment value.

So I think we made Ella laugh. I think we made Ella laugh that entire time. Were we funny? Yes. Did we do a good job? You did. Did we do better than on my birthday? Yes. Yes. Well, the birthday is also kind of my fault.

Oh, you're—

I should not have mentioned. Okay, your schedule was a tiny aggravation. Okay, I was a big tiny little bump in the day. And it's not a big deal. Okay, okay, sing us out, baby. Thank you for watching Whiny Palooza Wednesday with the Greene family. Thank you everyone, have a wonderful week.

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