Rebeccah Silence shares three ways to handle stress: accept what you feel without needing external circumstances to change, make empowered choices instead of repeating old patterns, and build resilience through small wins that rewire your brain. She survived cancer with a 5% survival chance and has coached clients since 2002.
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Let's talk about stress, baby. Let's talk about healing.
That when people hear stress, under pressure, they think they can't avoid it. And you say it doesn't have to be that way.
You don't have to feel pressure or overwhelmed or underwater. There will always be life being life. So I'm not saying the goal is to eliminate stress, but we can beat it. Secrets for you. So the first is I want you to realize you never need a circumstance to change for you to be okay. We think we're not gonna be okay until these external changes, the money changes, the diagnosis changes, our spouse, our kids start to behave better, whatever it is. You don't need anything to change for you to be okay. The second is I need you to know you are always at choice. There are so many instances where we feel like we have no choice and we're just at the effect of this really hard moment or really difficult season. And you always have a choice. And your choices are either empowered or disempowered, meaning you're believing in yourself more or less. And it's never correct. I want empowered choices. The future isn't gonna be the same as the past. Mm-hmm. So you've gotta know that you can create and design a new future for yourself. So what's really happening when somebody is so stressed out, they're overwhelmed? Yeah. What is our body going through? Well, our body is feeling unsafe and like we're not capable. Mm-hmm. That's really what's happening. And in so many cases, we've forgotten our resilience. We are so much more resilient than we know or than we can imagine. And it doesn't have to take crisis to figure out how strong and resilient we are, but it's in those little micro stressful moments that we can build evidence and create evidence create new neural pathways reinforcing that, wait a minute, I can do this. Because there's never a moment where you can't do it. So you're reprogramming your brain, right? We have to create new evidence to believe we're more powerful and capable than we think.
That's right. That makes sense. You got to believe it yourself before you could get anywhere else. I totally get what you're saying. It's something I worked on my whole life.
How do we stay in control when everything around us is chaotic? How do we stay grounded, right? We have to focus on what we do have control over, which is how we're showing up and how we feel and our intention, instead of focusing on all this that we don't have control over. You always have control over our Are you making empowered choices? You always have control over, are you designing a new future or repeating the past? And you always have control over, I can be okay and the best of me no matter what.
What do you say to someone watching right now and they're like, I can't handle what's in front of me right now. What would you tell them?
Oh yes, you freaking can. And you will. You are gonna survive this moment. I beat cancer with a 5% chance. I have helped clients heal since 2002, the unimaginable. You can do this and nobody can tell you that but you. Look in the mirror right now and I want you to say to yourself, I can do this. I've done hard things before.
