This is a short radio-show / YouTube interview (Confession Tuesday segment) featuring life coach Rebeccah Silence promoting her local coaching circles and discussing how people get "stuck". Key points: coaching circles run Tuesdays 7–8pm in Whitesboro ($15); the core coachable idea is that "victim mentality" or limited thinking creates feelings of powerlessness and stuckness; recommended steps include identifying the unconscious value of staying stuck, examining fear, and designing life beyond modeled limits. The segment also promotes the Abundant Living Retreat in California and a Radiance seminar (five seats left) and lists contact info (inspiredresultscoach.com, Facebook, Twitter).
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Tuesdays from 7 to 8pm.
At the office in Whitesboro.
$15.
Five seats.
inspiredresultscoach.com
And right now, it is a confession. Tuesday, local life coach Rebecca silence is in studio once again. Good morning.
Good morning.
All right, so talk to me about what's going on tonight. It's coaching circles, right?
Yes, we do coaching circles every Tuesday from 7 to 8pm at the office in Whitesboro. It's just $15 and you get great tools and strategies in a group setting. It's not one on one coaching, so it's not individual. But tonight we're actually going to talk about some strategies for communication.
Oh, nice.
It's going to be good. It's going to be good tonight. We'd love to see you there.
Absolutely. And for details, hit up inspired results coach.com you can also like them on Facebook and of course you can follow them on Twitter as well. All right, let's talk about. And it seems to be something that, that I keep hearing about, like infringe stuff. People that are in relationships, people that are in situations that they feel stuck. Okay, okay. Feeling. Feeling stuck and feeling like they can't do anything because of the situation or because of finances or because of just not being able to, quote, unquote, be strong enough to make the change. I want to talk about stuff like that. If people feel stuck with where they are and they want to move forward but are afraid to for whatever reason.
Yeah. This is a great question and a great topic. So I want you to think about where you're stuck. And we all have areas. This is what the radiant seminar is all about. Like, where do you want to radiate? Where are you not radiating stuck energy, though? I want you to consider that it's victim thinking that's creating, being stuck.
Okay?
So what I mean by that, you've heard me talk about drama, and one of the roles in drama is victim. This is not who you are. Okay? This is a mentality. This is the way you are thinking. So victim thinking is where you're feeling powerless.
Okay.
Okay. That's how I define the victim mentality. You're feeling powerless. I sometimes call it the doormat energy, where you're not standing up for yourself at all or what you're worth at all. And it's this idea that life is happening to you instead of realizing that you're the one designing your life.
And I think that it's important to point out that just because you may have this in one portion of your life doesn't mean that everything else. Because people could have, you know, amazing, successful careers. They could have, you know, this, that and the other. But in one Portion. Whether maybe it's a. The personal part of their. Of their life, they feel like that, but everything else is gung ho. And the way, quote, unquote, it's supposed to be. It's not. It's not the. The entire thing.
Well, here's a thought I have on that, though, because how you're showing up wherever you're feeling stuck in another area. I have a client, for example, who had some major issues with her daughter. They had a volatile relationship. It was violent. They weren't living together. We got that situation handled. And then all of a sudden, she created tons of mean girl stuff in her workplace.
Wow.
It just moved over to a different area. So while, yes, this could just be happening in one area and other areas are fine, there's usually a root issue that if we don't deal with it could start showing up in another area.
You know what's funny? And I've realized this over the years, and I don't know if it's. If it's the same kind of a thing or not. When I'm. I'm doing really well professionally, my personal relationships, my love life goes right into the toilet.
Yeah.
But when. But when I have, you know, when. When the love life's good and the relationship situation's good, the professionally, it's not. It's. It. And I don't know if that's. I don't know if that's part of it or not. Maybe it's because, you know, I myself in one to get away from the other.
So there's some root issue there.
I don't know. I'm just.
I do. There's a root issue.
Rebecca Styles.
No, no. I'm just saying. So next week, my husband and I are actually going to a retreat in California. It's called the Abundant Living Retreat. I'm helping support the seminar. Mark's gonna participate. And this is an event that is all about how do you create abundance in every area all at the same time? Because what we're talking about, it happens to everybody. And the thing is, it's unconscious. You're not intentionally having your love life go into the toilet when you grow professionally. So we gotta get aware and conscious of what might be going on that's causing that. And so when we're stuck, what I'm wanting everybody to think about is it's all in your head. It's limited thinking that's creating the stuckness. It's that victim mentality that's creating the stuckness.
Okay.
All right. It's that feeling of powerlessness. So when we're thinking about victim, my interpretation is that a victim mentality comes from not believing you can handle the situation that you're in.
Okay.
It comes from believing that I cannot possibly survive this. I need some type of assistance. I need someone to come in here and save me because I'm not capable of figuring it out. Now, I want everybody to think about the fact that is there anything you haven't handled in your life? Is there anything you haven't survived? Like, even those moments where you thought you were gonna die? And I've had plenty of them myself. Oh, wait a minute. I actually handled it like a champ. Maybe not got through that. Yeah. Maybe not gracefully, but we've gotten through anything that's happened.
So let me ask you this, and maybe this could be part of the homework, is, you know, you feel a situation where, you know, you said you talked about the feeling of hopelessness and, you know, powerless, if you will. What's a good, like, step one to kind of get that power? I don't want. And you don't want to go, like a complete 180 and go. But at the same time, I've got.
A great answer for you.
You want to, you know, start to shift a little bit.
Right. So the way to shift is to, number one, that we always do what's most valuable to us. So there's some unconscious reason why staying stuck is more valuable than getting what you're saying you want.
Okay.
Okay. So we wanna really look at what are you afraid of in terms of when you get this thing, what's gonna happen? There's some fear or there's some block that's real that if you don't identify why it's more valuable to stay stuck, there's no way to get unstuck.
Okay.
Does that make sense?
Yeah.
So there's value to staying stuck or you wouldn't do it. And this gets confronting for people, but I swear, do what you want to do. You only do what's more valuable in the moment, even if it doesn't make sense. It is, I promise you, possible to get unstuck if you can get awake to whatever you're afraid of.
And sometimes that's just taking the blinders off.
Right. And a lot of times people are feeling stuck if they're wanting something that they've never seen done before. So, for example, if, you know, your family hasn't modeled whatever it is that you're looking for, like a great relationship, for example, or being the CEO of a company. Somehow we have this self inflicted glass ceiling based on what we saw as possible in our childhood.
Okay.
And it's possible to break through that glass ceiling. But you've got to be willing to grow past what you've seen before. You've got to be willing to design your life the way you want, even if you've never seen it done before. And that's what we're all about at inspired results coaching.
Inspired results coach.com the coaching circle is tonight. Details.
Yes.
Join me online@inspiredresultscoach.com and of course on Facebook.
Great questions.
Awesome. Thank you so much.
Thank you, everybody. Have a great week. And remember, five seats are left for radiance. So, ladies, this is your time to jump on it.
Yeah. Because this time next week it's probably going to be filled.
Oh, yeah. I'm sure by the weekend.
Just saying.
Yep.
So it's Rebecca. Silence. Inspiredresultscoach. Com on a confession Tuesday here with Kiss fm.
