Confession Tuesday 3/1/16 SEASONAL DEPRESSION

It is a confession. Tuesday, local life coach Rebecca Silence in studio. Good morning.

Good morning.

So you have a lot of stuff going on between the, between the private practice that you're doing and seeing clients and whether it be families or couples or children, you're also doing the corporate speaking and you have a leadership thing coming up.

Yes, today actually I will be working with about 500 scientists on a webinar from the American Society of Clinical Pathology doing an effective ways to deal with conflict webinar. And then the first, think about that for a second.

She's doing a webinar with 500 scientists.

Yes. Yeah, I'm really looking forward to that today. And then I will be doing an inspired results leadership weekend, the first weekend in April. This event is filling fast. It's going to be unlike anything I have ever done before. Teaching people how to lead through whatever circumstances or chaos is up and in their way. So that event is filling fast. If you're interested, message me right away. It's going to be an unforgettable, life changing weekend for everyone that comes.

And if you want more details on that, you can go to inspiredresultscoach.com you can also like Rebecca Silence of Inspired Results on Facebook as well. Either one will get you the details. And I'm really liking your blogs that you do on a semi regular basis. It kind of, you know, everyone kind of gets stuck in the mud, you know, at some point. Even, you know, everyone does depending upon what's going on in the world and whatnot. So having that look, that, that different perspective and I think that's one of the cool things that you bring to the table is just looking at things a different way than most people. But the way you do makes so much sense.

Thank you. Yeah.

Does that make sense? Did I say that correctly?

I appreciate it. And if you want to read my blogs and find out about upcoming events, make sure you like Rebecca Silence of Inspired Results on.

So here's how we go. If you go to cnykiss.com and there's a backlog of years of different segments, about four years, all kinds of different topics and, and whatnot, they're all on there. You can also submit your story or something that you would like to hear Rebecca talk about here on the show and you can do that confidentially, which is fantastic that people, you know, people do this on the regular. Something that was brought up is seasonal depression.

Okay.

Okay. So it's this time of the year and actually this is the time where most people start to spin out of It. Because there's more sunlight. And, you know, people think, oh, it's. It's a wise day. But there is something to be said about the lack of sunlight and, like, going through the winter and the holidays. A lot of people get down in the dumps and just kind of down and, like, stuck in their own crap. I want to talk about seasonal depression and, you know, a good way to kind of, if you're feeling down in the dumps, how to kind of spin yourself out of it. Okay. That's what I want to. That's. I'm hoping we can talk about today.

Sure.

Because I think that there's a lot of people that they may not say I have seasonal depression. But this time of the year, the last, like, couple months, lot of people have just been like. And a lot of times, you know, they can help get themselves out of it. They just may not know how.

Yeah. So I think there are several reasons for this time of the year being difficult for many people. And then I agree that it is very real that people can go through a seasonal depression experience. So we have the holidays and everything is go, go, go, and then crash New Year's Eve. Now what? A lot of people by this time of the year have already long given up on any New Year's resolutions that they had, and it's kind of back to more of the same. Right. So I do think that, yes, the weather can be a factor. Yes, the days are shorter and it's darker much earlier. But more than anything, I think what's going on is this time of. Are really sitting with themselves and what is. And what isn't working for them. So what if this is an opportunity to not necessarily blame the circumstances, but to look at. All right. Whatever is coming up for you right now needs to. So I am of the opinion that there is absolutely no pain that can't be healed. And I am of the opinion that it is never, ever, ever the situation or another person that is causing me to be upset. So I want everyone to consider the possibility that that's true for them, that wherever they are is exactly where they need to be to heal something. And there, again, is nothing that can't be healed or overcome. I'm a perfect living example of that. So for those of you that are experiencing some sort of seasonal depression, what I would invite you to take on is, number one, there's nothing wrong with you. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. You're just not set up to have enough to be excited about. I think it's so super important to find someone, whether it's a therapist or a coach or a mentor to talk to if you're experiencing depression of any kind, because it is very real. It can be paralyzing and it can be debilitating. But the first step is to be acknowledging what's going on with you and to talk to somebody that's.

And I think that's where I was going is getting that first step is probably, you know, the hardest. But a lot of times I don't know if people actually see that it's the depression or what. You know, what's a good way to kind of say, okay, here's what I need to do? I need to get out of this funk.

Yeah.

Because everyone's different. Is there. Is there some way to kind of help, like a generality as far as, okay, what's the first step to turning it around?

Well, and I think, you know, when you're in a funk, right? And there isn't anyone on the planet that doesn't have days or moments or weeks or months or years where they're in a funk.

Right.

We have all been there. So again, there's nothing wrong with you if you're in a funk. But the reality is, you know, when you don't feel excited about getting up in the morning and energized. So if you're in a funk, that is a perfect opportunity to take on reaching out and talking to somebody. And then what if we can all pick that rock bottom for ourselves? So things don't have to be terrible. You don't have to be in a crisis to reach out and get support to make your life better. The people that come to my seminars, the people that coach with me and come to my retreats, their lives work, everyone's does, but they want more. So it doesn't have to be full on breakdown. And what I know is that the lessons don't go away until you face them and the problems get bigger until you face them. So even if it's just a whisper of a funk, that is a great opportunity to reach out and take some steps towards personal growth so that you can get out of it.

I think it's really good that what you said. It doesn't have to be bottom of the barrel.

It doesn't have to be full on crisis breakdown.

Right. Ex. You know, some people get into a funk. Some people have it last a week, like you said, a week, a day, a month, you know, who knows, whatever it is. But it doesn't have to be, you Know, you're getting evicted from your house, you know, you know, crisis stuff to start, you know, building yourself back up again.

Right now is the perfect time. And we are still at the beginning of 2016. So if there's something that you really were wanting in December and in January, it's certainly not too late to make that happen. And what we were talking about last week was that what I hear more than any is that people are afraid that they won't be able to accomplish their goals, so they don't start. And then why not? And why not you. If there's something that you want, you have access to it just like everybody else, and you can definitely have it. The second thing I would suggest for dealing with seasonal depression is paying attention to your inner circle or what I call your support team. So if you've got three to five really close people around you, I would be encouraging you to. First of all, if you don't have that, find those people, join meetup groups, join a gym, find a place where you can meet people. But I want you to get really close to your inner circle if you're struggling not to be this, like, Debbie Downer, whining and complaining, but to let them know, hey, I'm going through some stuff. I'd really like to have lunch with you. I'd really like to have a dinner date, whatever it is. But reach out and stay connected more than ever. If you're in this experience of seasonal.

Depression, I think that that's the hard part for people is, you know, reaching out because they don't want to seem like a lot of people.

Isolate.

Well, yeah, and a lot of. A lot of people, I believe, you know, don't want to be seen as a charity case or not strong enough to handle whatever, doesn't want to be seen as weak or whatever because they're reaching out. And I think that's. I think that's the delicate balance with most people is they want to, you know, reach out and talk to somebody, but at the same time, they don't want to get labeled as a Debbie Downer or not being able to handle those.

I think what you said is super important. People might think that it's weak to be vulnerable, and then my coaching is that is what makes you the most beautiful and the strongest. When you are willing to be that vulnerable and raw, that is the best gift you can give yourself and to the entire planet. And what I know is that it is not possible to not have drama. Right? We are all going to have drama, but the Number one fastest way out of it is connection with another human being. Being real and being honest about how you're feeling and what's going on with you. And when you willing to be that real, that is the strongest that you can be. And then you're modeling that for your kids because that's something that we see and we follow. Oh, wait, I'm not supposed to be emotional. I'm not supposed to have these feelings. You saw someone else do that. That's why you do it. So let's not continue that ripple effect of it isn't okay to be vulnerable and honest about how I feel. If you want to feel better, my coaching is to find someone to talk to that's either a therapist or a coach or a mentor and get really real with your closest inner circle and that support system about what you're going through if you want to feel better. Because we all have the option of feeling better. It is not impossible to get out of a funk or seasonal depression or whatever circumstance you're in, you can get out of it, but you have to be willing to do whatever it takes to do that.

Local life coach Rebecca silence. Inspired results. Coach.com doing corporate trainings, doing talks at schools, helping families, individuals, couples, children, and doing a webinar with scientists later today. And helping what you do is absolutely amazing.

Thank you. I have homework.

Yes.

So everyone get vulnerable and talk to one person today about how you're really feeling.

Inspired results. Coach.com, local life coach Rebecca Silence. Amazing as always on a confession Tuesday.

Thank you, everyone. Have a great week.

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