A recorded interview (Confession Tuesday, hosted with life coach Rebeccah Silence) responding to a local tragedy: an 8-year-old child was struck and killed by a backing truck in a mall parking lot outside Target. The show discusses healthy ways the bereaved family can process sudden grief (no timeline, allow talking, self-care), and also addresses the emotional impact on the driver (reported to be a teenager/19 years old), urging support, counseling, and use of the incident to teach parking-lot safety. The speakers emphasize community rallying, avoiding blame, and creating a legacy/awareness from the loss.
90791055 Kiss FM. Charlie Booth. That's attention. It's Lizzen Big Papa.
It is a confession Tuesday with life coach Rebecca silence inspired results. Coach.com is the website. All right, let's get right right into it. Unfortunately, a tragedy happened over the weekend at at the mall outside of target. An 8 year old child got hit by a truck that was backing out of a parking spot and and unfortunately passed away. Now there are a lot of people that are feeling a lot of feelings and there are a lot of emotions that people are dealing with right now. My first question is if you are the family of the eight year old, how do you process this? How does you know what's a good way to kind of deal with these emotions? Because something sudden like that, it comes out of nowhere and it changes your life forever.
Well, absolutely. What this family is going through is the unimaginable. And what I will say is trying to understand why it happened will only cause more stress and pain. There is no answer to the question why. There is no way to rationalize or kind of make this unimaginably painful situation better. So what my suggestion is is be willing to take as much time as you need to get through this. I can't say you're going to be okay. What I can say is your family will get through this. You will get through this. How? I don't exactly know yet. I'll give you some tips here, but there's nobody to blame and there's no answer to the question why that, you know, will make you feel any better, that I can promise you.
With that being said, is it normal that people, when it comes to something as tragic like this, people are always looking for something to blame?
Well, I think in any breakdown it becomes a battle that ends up almost war based in terms of the energy. Whose fault is it especially? Especially, you know, when I'm coaching families and couples in my office, who's the most hurt, who hurt the other one worse? And that doesn't get us back to connection and intimacy. I do know this for sure that there's no situation that you can't use as rocket fuel in your life. There's no situation that can't make you a stronger, better version of you if you choose to get up when life throws you curve balls instead of staying down. And then again, I am encouraging you to take as much time as you need right now and practice impeccable self care. Right? Get sleep, eat, drink water. Because if you become tired and hungry and grasping at vapors and running on fumes. This is just going to be so, so, so much worse. And then ideally you're going to talk about this as long as you need to. I mean, with me going through cancer. I talked about it, I still talk about it. And there's a healing to that. Giving your truth a voice just from a place of, you know, this is my truth unapologetically versus trying to rationalize why you feel how you feel. You are going to feel extreme grief and sadness. You are going to feel extreme rage and anger. You are going to have moments where you're just paralyzed in fear. It's all healthy, it's all normal. And I encourage you to get a support system that you can talk to and just know there's no timeline I on how long this is gonna take for you to feel like you again and again. It's unimaginably painful what this family is going through. And my heart goes out to you and I'm so sorry. And you can use this time as rocket fuel to get closer to the family that you still have. That I know for sure. And there's nothing wrong with how you handle it. And nobody can tell you what to do because you. There's no way to make this better right away.
Now I'm going to, I'm going to ask you from the other side of the coin. I've say you are. Now I've heard it's a, I've heard it's a teenager that was that back the truck out. Obviously this teenager didn't plan and didn't hit a 8 year old child on purpose. They have to be going through their own stuff as, as well. You know, they just got into their car, they went to leave and you know, again, life changing how. What's a good way to kind of help, you know that aspect of it? Because all of a sudden an accident happened and I didn't do it on purpose, obviously. I mean nobody would. And all of a sudden you have that response. You know, you have that on you as well.
Right. I mean what, what a life changing moment in time that basically is the result of a perfect storm that is nobody's fault. And nobody is powerful enough to have coordinated the circumstances just so, so that the accident happened the way it did.
Yeah. And again, none of us were there, none of us saw what happened. We don't know exactly how everything played out. It's, you know, but, but, but what I can say for sure is no one would get into the back, you know, into a car and, and Back.
Up intentionally into a nature intentional and then it still happened. So now what? And you know, for the driver, again, I hope and pray for you that you can see the innocence in this event, in this day, in this moment. You will again get through it. I can't tell you it's gonna be okay, but I can tell you you will get through it. And you know, how people choose to proceed after these life changingly devastating experiences is I really believe, a true test of your character. And you're going to get to know yourself better than maybe you ever thought you would now because of this experience. And I'll say the same thing to you, have a support system, talk about it, take as much time as you need, and practice impeccable self care. Also, you know, you get to decide how you want to use this experience to help other people. And this is a situation that can help other people because we talk about, oh, be careful in the parking lot to our kids all the time, knowing, yeah, there's a slim chance that, you know, accidents could happen, but it's very real that accidents could happen. So we can use this to educate our children about looking at the white light behind a car and knowing that means that the car is backing up and talking about holding hands in the parking lot and talking about being really, really careful and looking out for each other. Just like we teach kids when we're doing bully prevention, you know, don't be a bystander. Same thing with safety issues in parking lots and safety issues in general. We can all learn from this and we can all teach our families. And adults get hit in parking lots too. And the driver was 19. It could have been anybody at any age. It could have happened to any of our families. My heart is aching for all of you. The driver, the family, you know, this precious soul that's now an angel. And I think that what we can do as a community is we can rally around this family and we can honor this child and we can somehow do our best to create a legacy for this family, for this child in this community. And it is one of the reasons that I choose to live here in the Utica area because this community rallies around people when there is a tragedy. And I expect that that's what's going to happen with this situation. And let's just all love each other more and know that crises can bring us closer together. And trying to figure out why is only going to hurt all of us more. I'm so sorry for the driver, for the family, and just know that you're held and supported by strangers.
Absolutely. Life coach Rebecca silence inspired results. Coach.com Just real quick, in closing, there are people that will say, well, where are the parents? There are people who say, well, why didn't the kid look before he backed up? There are going to be. The fact is, unless you were there, you don't know.
And it's a perfect storm that nobody had control over.
Exactly. So obviously, our thoughts and prayers are with everybody that was affected. Rebecca, thank you so much. You helped a lot of people today just by being able to talk about it. And thank you.
