This content was created by Rebeccah Silence. This content was uploaded by Rebeccah Silence. This is a YouTube video titled "Confession Tuesday 7/11/17 SUMMER SCHEDULES" containing a multi-speaker conversation recorded in August 2017. The discussion features Liz, Rebeccah Silence (a life coach), and other speakers talking about managing family routines and schedules during summer, emphasizing the importance of structure, family calendars, and involving children in chores. The content is conversational and focuses on practical advice for families to handle the challenges of summer transitions.
9, 8, 7, 9, 10, 55 KISS FM. It's Liz and big Papa. It's a confession.
Tuesday, life coach Rebecca silence in studio inspired results. Coach.com welcome back as well.
Thank you.
Okay, so what we're talking about this week is the fact that now. Okay, we are in summer mode. Okay. And all routines seem to have absolutely flown right out the window, which all of a sudden, in the family dynamic ca a lot of stress. It's a lot of. It's a lot to handle, especially if there's multiple children going on and at different ages and who's going where. I want to talk about ways that families can kind of help with dealing with what's going on as far as. Okay, who's going where, what's it. Okay, there's this one here, this one there. And lack of structure, lack of a routine, I guess, is what I'm trying to say, because it's a brand new set of problems. Brand new set of things that are coming up that don't necessarily come up the rest of the year.
Yeah. And it's just another natural transition time of the year, which is cool because it's a great time to practice implementing new strategies for how to run the family, how to run the house, and to kind of take inventory of how time is being spent and resources are.
Being spent because it's real easy to blow through all kinds of money real, real quick. Yeah.
And energy. Right. Absolute. Yeah. So it doesn't really matter if you're a parent, if you're single, what your status. It's a good time of year to assess and figure out how you're spending your time, if how you're spending your time works. And then where there is lack of support, that needs reinforcement.
Okay. So look. Look at Liz right now. Yeah.
But we all go through this, and summer is a great time to be checking out what's happening versus just going on autopilot and fall hits, and we're even more behind the eight ball.
So what's a good way to kind of take inventory as far as, okay, what's working, what's not? Cause sometimes being able to take a step back and, you know, itemize stuff like that, that's hard for a lot of people.
Well, and one of the things when I'm doing family coaching that always needs to get worked on is how can the entire family be a team where the kids are also helping out around the house and. And being a part of running the family system? And this is a really good time of year if your kids aren't helping out as much as they could be to start giving them some incentive to be doing more chores and being a part of making that family system run.
It's not like they have homework.
Right. Exactly. Cause this is a really good time of year to start practicing that. I think a family calendar is always my number one recommendation.
Family calendar.
A family calendar where you actually have documented on a wall what's happening every day that week, every day that month.
Okay.
If we're just keeping lists in our head, and often parents will be knowing what's going on, but the kids don't know until the last second, that doesn't set anybody up to win. So having a calendar where the kids know, okay, today is this, tomorrow's this, you know, Friday is this, Saturday's this, and here's my part in that. And it really helps get proactive in how things are going and what needs to happen.
I guess. I guess I take that for granted because of Joshi and his autism, because very early on, we all learned that Joshi has trouble transitioning from one thing to another. So I literally would have to say, okay, Joshi, here's what's going to happen. And I did it yesterday. Okay, we're going to do this, and then we're going to go into the car. We have to go pick up this. We have to go to this store, and then we have to go here, and then after that, we're going to do this.
But every family should be doing.
And I would have to. I would have to break it down like that child forced me to because of his autism. So. So that's common sense for me. But a lot of people, I'm really. You're really.
Yeah, that's something that.
That kind of. Especially a family like yours, you know, you guys are awesome. And everybody's going in different directions. So to have a calendar circus.
Right?
Right. I have my own little circus. I for sure do. But to have a calendar where things are written down, especially if kids are, you know, in a shared custody situation, where they're going to be. And then this is another piece that I really like to use a calendar for. Everybody in the family should have something to look forward to in a.
Everyone.
Because if we're just going through the motions, it's not fun. We're alive, we're in summer. The family should be having fun. So I encourage people to have, like, a family date a week and then make sure even the kids have something individually that they can look forward to during the week. Not every day, but an overnight or you know, my daughter's in dance and that's her thing and she really likes it. But the kids should have something to look forward to. The family should have a date. And then the obligations have them on the calendar. And then not just on the calendar, but do what you're saying where you say, okay, today this is what we're doing and then at night, tomorrow this is what we're doing. Just kind of reminders and that constant communication, keeping people in the loop and having the calendar creates a built in structure when the summer's a little bit out of whack.
And for the record, something to look forward to for the kids. Cleaning their room is not.
But that's another piece where if they're doing their chores, they get rewarded. Yes, of course there's something that they have to look forward to. But we're all in this together. We're a team. And the parents should not be working their butts off all day, coming home and doing all of the household chores.
Oh, hell no.
There's no reason for that. Oh, hell no. The kids actually need to learn how to have discipline and structure and to be part of doing chores because otherwise they're gonna be on their own and they're not gonna know how to do that. But I do believe in incentive and I do believe in communication and structure. And the family calendars have worked really well. And for the families that I coach. And then if you practice it now in summer, come fall, this isn't going to be brand new. Transition will be a lot easier during school and extracurricular activities and homework. Try all of this new. Okay, now we're going to have chores. Try it now.
Absolutely.
And make sure your kids aren't just sitting around. Give them something to do. Give them something to look forward to and have respect for them by letting them know what's going on.
