Gary talks with life coach Rebeccah Silence about feeling off during fall and Mercury retrograde. She suggests using the mood to ask what you're living for and whether you're honoring yourself, and shares how one leader dropped a fake bubbly persona and saw better business results.
Questions this video answers
September 9 to October 2.
I. I'm. I'm off.
Okay.
You know, I'm. I'm. I'm not myself. I'm grumpy. Which, I mean, you know me that. See, see, Totally. Like, is that it?
Sometimes life is giving us the perfect storm to look at who we think we're supposed to be versus how we really are. And I think how we really are is always we. Way more important to focus on than who we think we're supposed to be.
Mix 102.5. The best mix from the 90s to now. Big Papa in the afternoon. It is a mental wellness Wednesday. Life coach Rebecca Silence, author of the upcoming book Coming Back to Life and the Emotional Survival kit, available at rebeccasilence.com Rebecca, how are you?
Well, I am very well. We are in fall, and this is the season to let fall away. What doesn't serve us. I'm eager to hear what we're talking about today.
Well, it has something to do with the timing. Mercury drinking the Gatorade or Retrograde? Like, I. I never believed in that.
Stuff you're asking me about.
Mercury Retrograde, but I swear, I swear, Mercury, I. Is. This whole thing is kicking me right in the teeth, and I don't know how to, like, like, do I blame that? Is it, like, I can't be the only one, right?
No. Well, you're certainly not the only one. But let me just ask a clarifying question. What is it that you're experiencing? Like, what is it that's kicking you in the teeth? What's happening?
Literally, just. I'm off.
Okay?
You know, I'm. I'm not myself. I'm grumpy, which, I mean, you know me, see, But. But I don't know. It's like, I'm. I'm just. I'm tired all the time, and I'm just, you know, I'm grumpy. I'm not, like, motivated. And that's just not. Like, I'm still handling my responsibilities. But beyond that, like, I'm just like. I'm just like, jello right now. And it just kind of came on and I don't know, like, is that it?
Okay, here's what I know for sure. This is a season where it's time to get honest. As we head into fall, it's time to get honest. So maybe Mercury Retrograde is playing a part. All Mercury Retrograde is is a time that asks us to get honest. How are we living? Is it in a way that honors and respects and takes care of us? Are we going through the motions Are we going against ourselves? You know, this is a time fall, Mercury retrograde where our bodies are telling us how we feel and the truth about how we're living, whether our minds want to pay attention to that or not. So what I mean by that is I would suggest your body is letting you know something's off about how honest you're being with yourself about how you're living. Meaning are you living in a way that is giving you anything to look forward to? Do you have anything you're excited about that you're creating beyond the day to day status quo? This is a time for us to, to look at what we're living for and how we're living. It doesn't mean anything bad is happening or that anything externally is happening to you. It's just an opportunity to get honest. And I want to tell you a quick story. So one of the biggest female leaders in central New York has been working with me for years, was at my January women's retreat. And this is a very bubbly person, right? Like bubbly, bubbly, bubbly. Well, at my retreat she was so just kind of flat and what's happening to me? What's happening? This isn't me. But what was really going on is she was letting go of this Persona and she was letting herself just fall into a more honest way of being. She doesn't have to be bubbly and have this Persona and this act. And that act isn't what has had her, it's who she is. So she dropped into letting some of that act go and got way more honest and risked being seen just real straight how she was without all the bubbly, bubbly, bubbly. And I think she's tripled her sales since January in her company.
That's great.
So what I'm saying is sometimes life is giving us the perfect storm to look at who we think we're supposed to be versus how we really are. And I think how we really are is always way more important to focus on than who we think we're supposed to be. And having something to live for, regardless of an emotional off moment or chapter or whatever it is that's happening, is so critical. So I would invite everyone listening and you, Gary, to be thinking about what do I want to create this fall? What am I living for? What is it that takes care of me? How do I want my life to be going? Start with those questions and don't blame it on Mercury retrograde or the fall or anything external. It's okay to just be where you are. And happy people are knowing who they are, honoring who they are, whether they're experiencing anger, fear, grief, joy, or excitement. Often we only think we're okay if we're joyful and excited. And most of the time, most people aren't joyful and excited. So then they think something's wrong with them. Nothing's wrong. It's just emotions. It's just a season they pass. Focus on what are you living for, what honors you, what takes care of you and what respects you. And these emotions will shift and move and transform. I promise.
With all that being said. And you absolutely helped a ton of people just now because you, you made the, the paint, the pain, stroke broad enough where everybody can get a little something from that. With all that being said, Wednesday and Mercury retrograde. When's that over?
You know what? Hold on. I know it started, I think September 9th. And I will tell you, it's real. I mean, I shot two shows for when I was away doing my healing as possible weekend retreat, which was phenomenal. And both of them, they send it to my assistant and it was all wonky, so we had to just do audio because it didn't work. So Mercury retrograde ends October 2nd, just a little bit longer. September 9th to October 2nd. But it's just an opportunity for us to get honest. Relationship dynamics. Get honest. You know how we are spending our time and energy. If it is not really good for us, our bodies will let us know. It's good news.
Sunday, Sunday. Just, just got to get the Sunday. I appreciate, I appreciate you more than you know.
Just got to get through this, right?
Wellness Wednesday. The emotional survival kit is available right now@rebecca silence.com preorder the book that'll be coming out in the next couple of weeks. Coming back to life wherever you get your books. Rebecca, always a pleasure. We'll talk to you next week.
