Rebeccah Silence explains that holding grudges drains your energy, not the other person's. She uses Wayne Dyer's orange metaphor to show emotions come from inside you, then offers concrete steps: set boundaries, protect others' hearts, and leave if needed, like taking Aunt Kim for ice cream instead of staying in a disrespectful space.
activated in you what you haven't dealt with yet, boo. And until you deal with it, nothing's gonna make it go away.
Let's talk about family drama. You know, time— everyone's time is limited. To waste that time being mad at somebody and holding a grudge and not talking to somebody— how can, how can we navigate this?
So many families go through this and just pretend like they're fine. Nobody needs to know. And it's heartbreaking. You're the one being funky when you're the one holding the grudge, right? You're the one being funky when you're pretending like you're angry because of somebody else. Now notice what I just said— pretending to be angry because of somebody else. I'm not giving jerks free passes, but if you're the one funkylicious with fumes coming out of your ears and nose and other places, they didn't do it. So Wayne Dyer talks about we're all oranges and what comes out of us when we're squeezed, that's already there. They didn't put the juice in you. So how you feel at this family function or in bed laying at night when you're thinking about your family, that is your work. What you can do is be brave enough to stand for, here's what I'm gonna do to have a great time. Here's what I'm gonna do to be careful with the hearts of everybody at this reunion. Be careful with people's hearts whether or not they deserve it. Now that doesn't mean take crap. I'm not inviting you to stand in the middle of the road and hope you don't get run over by a car. But you can say something like, yeah, this isn't how I do things. If you want to have a loving, respectful moment with me, yes, I'm here for it. If not, I'm taking Aunt Kim and we're going to get some ice cream. Go and DM me @rebeccahsilence on Instagram, family, and we will send you the free masterclass, the 3 Must-Know Secrets to Heal and Save Your Family. And thank you.
