In this YouTube short, Rebeccah Silence discusses personal safety through the perspective of generational trauma. She explains how parents model safety based on their own upbringing, which can affect a child's sense of worth and self‑protection. Rebeccah shares her own harrowing experience of being assaulted by six rapists, including a hotel manager who drugged her, to illustrate the deep impact of repeated victimization. She emphasizes that trauma is not the survivor’s fault, but also acknowledges that such incidents are often part of a pattern rather than an isolated event. The core of her message is that healing comes from cultivating self‑respect, self‑love, and body awareness, which can deter future predators. She offers concrete safety tips for bar settings—never leave drinks unattended, stay with trusted companions, and report any assault without fear. Throughout, she aims to return power to survivors, encouraging them to reclaim agency over their lives.
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So what does it mean to keep yourself safe? Let's just look at this from a generational trauma healing lens, okay? So your parents only know how to keep themselves as safe as their parents kept them safe, and they only know how to keep you safe growing up at the level that they're keeping themselves safe. And if I wasn't safe growing up, it's easy to believe I'm not worth showing up for, I'm not worth being cared for, right? Now, how do we take this into like the bar scene and somebody's drugging you. If I don't value myself and my worth, I don't pay that much attention to what I'm feeling, what I'm needing, what I'm wanting. And if I'm showing up at a bar, there's an energy that people can feel. I just went on primetime TV here in Denver and I talked about— I have had 6 different rapists, okay? I've had 6 different rapists. So I'm not messing around when I'm having this conversation with you. I am someone who has learned how to treat myself with with so much regard, so much care, and so much respect. And the last rapist was a manager of a hotel that slipped me some drugs and then broke into my room that night. So this isn't me blaming myself. I didn't deserve this. Whatever it's been for you or the person you love, you don't deserve it. They didn't deserve it. But I knew energetically this predator thought he could get away with it with me, and that it had to be the last time. And I had healing to do to be someone who was so in my body and loving and respecting myself that you wouldn't want to mess with me. Now I can't control other people, but I can heal the part of me that's used to this level of BS. I can heal the part of me that's used to being terrified and scared and unsafe and having perpetrators perpetrate against me, and that's just normal for me. And that's the work I did, and that's the work that's available for all of you. So it is not your fault, but it is not the first time. It's never this one time at the bar you got drugged and you've never been victimized before. And I am just taking it here very directly and very controversially, and some of you might not like where I'm going, but I have to give you the power back. In your own life. And then obviously, practically, have people with you. Don't leave your drink unattended, right? Like, but it really does come down to self-respect and self-love. And if, God forbid, something happens, report it. Don't be afraid to.
