Rebeccah SilenceWorlds Leading Love & Emotional Healing Coach • Speaker • Author • Creator of The Unsilent Woman

Is This The Right Person For You? Here's How to Know

21 Feb 2023 · 1 min

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A short monologue by Rebeccah Silence about how to recognize whether someone is the right partner. The speaker introduces a framework of "attraction levels": Attraction level one is described as being unconsciously attracted to one’s trauma, wounds, and heartbreak—repeating patterns without healing—while Attraction level two begins the shift toward embodying the qualities one seeks in a partner. The talk frames these stages as guidance for moving toward committed, long-term relationships.

What should you know when you're dating? What can you do to have an experience of dating that actually tips the needle and moves you into the land of committed long term Attraction level one. It's you being attracted to your trauma, to your wounds and to your heartbreak, and needing a way to play it out again, to have power and control and a new end to the story. It was so painful, but when we don't even realize we're attracted to what we haven't healed yet. No matter how many times we play it out, we still don't heal. We just replace this person again with another one. We end up fighting with ghosts and it's so not necessary. Attraction level two is where we become the qualities that we are seeking and desiring in a partner.