Rebeccah SilenceWorlds Leading Love & Emotional Healing Coach • Speaker • Author • Creator of The Unsilent Woman

Most people wait until emotional turmoil is so bad they can't deny it anymore. #shorts

21 Jun 2026 · 0 min

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In this YouTube short, Rebeccah Silence discusses emotional healing, challenging the common belief that people must endure severe emotional turmoil before they can change. She argues that healing can be driven by desire for greater impact, pleasure, peace, and joy, rather than waiting for a crisis. When asked what "permanent healing" looks like, she describes it as an open, unguarded heart that continues to love even when triggered, contrasting it with the fear‑based, protective stance of an unhealed person. She emphasizes that true healing means feeling safe to give love, lowering emotional walls, and developing a secure sense of self that is not threatened by external events. The conversation frames healing as a proactive, desire‑driven practice rather than a reactive response to suffering.

I think for many people, we break down to breakthrough. Yeah. We suffer and we have to wait until it's so bad. Yeah, like the darkest night of your soul. Deny, we have to heal, right? It doesn't have to get to that point. We can heal just because we desire to be more, to have more of an impact, to have more pleasure, to have more peace, to have more joy. It doesn't have to be suffering in the tank to heal. It can also be desire.
Okay, so what is permanent healing actually? What does that actually look like to you?
Yeah, so people ask me all the time how I'm so positive. Yeah. I'm not, I'm healed, right? I live the practice of emotional healing. What it looks like is your heart is open. What it feels like is the opposite of the trigger. Oh, I love you so much, but the way you just spoke to me, that's not gonna work. But I am not shutting down my love. I am not guarding and protecting my heart when I'm healed. My heart is wide open, I'm not afraid of when I'm healed. When I'm not healed, I'm afraid to risk getting hurt again. Right? My love trauma is winning. I see. And ultimately the number one thing we have to fight for is our healing because not healing isn't working for you. No, it's terrible being stuck there. Right? You deserve to have the walls down around your heart. You deserve to feel love. You deserve to know it's safe to give your love. Right. And that can't hurt you. Oh wow. So you've really become secure. And I'm very insecure. I mean, you can learn to become secure, especially. You can live beyond being guarded and protected. Yes. Yes. And you can be so secure that you know your character so well it can't be threatened. Wow. That's what we're afraid of. Right? That is good.