In a live morning‑show segment on Mix 102.5’s Mental Wellness Wednesday, host Speaker A interviews Rebeccah Silence, a love and emotional‑healing coach (theunsilentwoman.com). The conversation centers on the perceived decline of romance and offers concrete, coach‑style guidance for reviving it in current or budding relationships. Rebeccah’s core premise is that waiting for a partner to initiate romance backfires; instead, individuals should “go first.” She advises listeners to reconnect with desire by feeling it in the body—breathing into the feet, opening the heart, and embodying desirability. She stresses that romance need not be grand; small, consistent gestures (dry‑erase notes on mirrors, lipstick love messages on car seats) are powerful. Rebeccah also recommends the free Love Languages quiz as couple’s homework to align gestures with each partner’s preferred expression of love. Finally, she encourages simple date‑making and frames the effort as a “summer of love.” The segment ends with a plug for Rebeccah’s website and a reminder to tune in next week.
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We're live and local. It's Mix 102.5 Big Pop in the Morning, Mental Wellness Wednesday with the world's leading love and emotional healing coach, She is the unsilentwoman.com. Rebeccah Silence, good morning. How are you?
I am so happy to be here. Let's go.
So I was, um, I'm on TikTok and YouTube and on Twitch every single morning. And the other day we were talking about this, that, and the other. And, uh, cause the mic never shuts off. So it's, it's just an ongoing conversation and somebody had mentioned. That there's a lack of romance now.
Uh-huh.
And, you know, where, you know, I'm just looking for romance. I've never, you know, nobody is romantic anymore. So let's talk about that. Let's talk about how to bring romance, whether it be to a current relationship or if you are interested in somebody, how to bring romance and not do it in a creepy way.
Yes, yes, yes. Oh my God, I love this conversation. Let's just all decide this is going to be the summer of love. Okay, everybody listening, this gets to be your summer of love and we get to bring back the romance. I love this, I love this, I love this. Okay, so let me tell you the one don't I I don't want you to do, and then a few things you can do. So what I don't want you to do, which I've seen for over 25 years in my private practice, is wait for the other person to go first. That's what a lot of you do. You're like, I'm not gonna give them the best of me. I'm not gonna give them the romance. They haven't touched me in 5 years. You're looking for reasons to wait.
Wait.
And to punish the other person and to make them go first is actually hurting you, boo, right?
Yeah.
'Cause you want the spark, you want the romance, and you deserve it. So go first. The second you see the romance is missing, go first instead of putting it on your partner, okay? That's number one, number one, number one, number one. Now, number two, here are three things I do want you to do. I want you to actually feel into your body how good it feels to open up to desire again. A lot of us are just in our head going through the motion, checking off the to-do list, even maybe late at night we're checking off the boxes, going down a list.
When you say— I'm sorry, when you say open up to desire, what do you mean by that?
I literally want you to imagine breathing into your feet and dropping into your body and, and opening up your heart to desire. I want you to feel what it's like to open up to— it gets to feel good, and I get to feel desire. And from there you get to feel desirable. But we guard and protect our hearts, and we're in our head instead of in our body. So feel what it feels like to be in your body expecting good stuff, feeling desire, and letting yourself be desirable because you are. And maybe somebody hurt you, maybe somebody's saying mean things to you, or did once upon a time, but you are desirable. And if you don't feel that in your body, your partner can't make you feel that. You have to feel it first. And trust, it does get to be good, and you don't just have to brace yourself for more nonsense or more heartbreak, or if you put yourself out there for a romantic experience, you're guaranteed gonna get hurt. None of that is true, okay? And the last thing is, it doesn't have to be super grandiose, these romantic gestures. I leave little notes for Mark in dry erase markers on the bathroom mirror.
Oh.
Or I'll do it with lipstick. You know, put a little love note on the seat of your partner's car. I love you. I appreciate you. I'm grateful for you. It can be so simple, these romantic gestures. And then if you haven't taken the Love Languages quiz that's free online, this is a great couple's homework assignment. Take the Love Language quiz because you're probably trying to do romantic gestures the the way you want your partner to show up for you, and it might not land for them. So there's gifts, there's acts of service, there's physical touch, there's words of affirmation, um, and there's, there's one more, but there's 5. And I want you to know what your love language is, but I really want you to know what your partner's love language is. So make this the summer of love. And of course Go on some dates, but you can start small.
Right. Absolutely. It is a Mental Wellness Wednesday. If you want to learn more, you can go to theunsilentwoman.com. She's the world's leading love and emotional healing coach. She is Rebeccah Silence. Incredible stuff as always. We'll talk to you next week.
