Rebeccah Silence, a love and emotional healing coach, shares three ways to shift when life feels like a black cloud: say "Nothing is wrong with me" in the mirror daily, take responsibility for your patterns without shame, and find a coach or therapist to help you design a better version of yourself.
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Foreign, we're live and local. It's mixed with a 2.5 big papa in the Morning on a mental wellness Wednesday with the world's leading love and emotional healing coach, Ms. Rebecca Silence. She's available online. Theunsilentwoman.com Rebecca, good morning. How are you?
Hello, everyone. I am so excited to create some magic together today.
It's funny that you said create some magic, because what the topic is today is talking to people that feel like they have a black cloud over their head.
Oh, good.
Like, feel like they can't catch a break. They feel like that everything is going wrong around them. Feeling like they can't do anything right. They take two steps ahead, they go three steps back. Let's talk about people that are having that mindset and feeling like that's the world to them right now.
Yeah. Because it's real, right? Like, so many of you had all the best intentions, kicking off the year and feeling like, okay, now there's a fresh start. Now things are going to change. But the problem is it isn't all of the externals changing that's ever going to make you feel better. What do I mean by that? You think if I could just get my body right, my money right, my sex life right, my career right, my business right, My. My team right, my clients right, my kids right. I could go on and on and on, then I'm gonna have relief, I'm gonna have peace. Then I'm gonna feel better. But the thing is, it's always the next thing. Even when the ship gets right in one area. If we don't know how to center and regulate and rest in the best of who we are and know how to make the best of whatever it is, it will never be now. This now, this now this got better. So I can be better. That's not how it works. And someday doesn't come, and the black cloud is real. And I've coached over a thousand in my private practice that have come to me with some type of a black cloud. Right. Like, you don't hire me because everything is going well. You hire me because something's got to give. You need relief. So let me give you three hacks today that will bring you some clarity and relief. Here's the first one. I want you looking in the mirror and saying out loud, nothing is wrong with me sometime today. And you might think that's crazy and you might think that's cheesy, but you think something's wrong with you. If you think something's wrong with your life, and nothing's wrong with you. And that doesn't mean there aren't some things going wrong in your life circumstantially. But. But what's going wrong outside of you, it's not more powerful than you.
It's. It sounds stupid and silly, but it's so powerful. What are the words again?
Nothing is wrong with me.
Stand in front of a mirror and say that to your.
Nothing is wrong with you.
Yourself. And I'll tell you what. So Rebecca had me do it. And so, so powerful. Absolutely. What's. What's the second hack?
And if you cry, Good, I did right. We've got to release all this trapped fear that's suffocating you and holding your joy hostage. Nothing is wrong with me. The second hack is you taking responsibility for. For your part in your situation. That's how you take your power back. So what do I mean by taking responsibility? None of what's going on or going wrong is your fault, but it is your work. So we have to look at your patterns and your part in how you got here. I remember going through a divorce, getting out of a domestic violence marriage, and I was so afraid to open the pile of bills that just kept coming. And I was married to a construction guy, so everything was in my name. The house, two cars. There were credit cards taken out in my name I didn't even know existed. That got maxed out that I didn't find out about until now. I'm in the middle of a divorce, and I didn't want to touch those envelopes. It was terrifying, borderline debilitating. But my part was, I signed off on all of this. Maybe not the credit cards I didn't know about, but the marriage and combining money with my husband and thinking he had the money under control and not paying attention to the money. I didn't pay any attention to the money while I was married. Zero. I hope you can hear how neutral I am about this. I'm not, like, beating myself up. I'm not. What's the matter with me?
I'm not.
I had to take responsibility for. None of this is my fault, but I have a part in it, and I have a responsibility to right the freaking ship. And I just started opening bills, ultimately ended up foreclosing on the house, going bankrupt. But the point was, again, none of it was more powerful than me. And there was so much I didn't have control over, but there was a lot I had control over.
No, you're absolutely right. Those are the first two. The third hack we're going to get online@mixpot025.com it is a mental Wellness Wednesday. The world's leading love and emotional healing Coach, Rebecca Silence. Theunsilentwoman.com the conversation continues online right now at mixvoto25.com all right, what is number three?
All right, number three is you have to meet a version of you you don't know yet. What do I mean by that? It is time to uplevel who you are being. So many of you have a black cloud over you because you're overwhelmed and you're feeling pressure and you're constantly thinking about, what do I need to do? I don't care about what there is to do. I care about you being someone you're proud of and that you love and that you respect. So you stepping into becoming a next level version of yourself that you don't know yet, you don't trust yet. That is the ultimate hack. So you're going to need to hire a coach, get a therapist, get a mentor, get some sort of outside support to give you new ways of being and becoming that feel good and that you're proud of. And it doesn't mean who you are right now has anything wrong with you or that you're a bad person. But we can only take ourselves so far, right? I have the own youn Voice Society. It's a membership for women. It's 49 bucks a month that exists. There are other mentors that offer communities at relatively economical price points. It doesn't have to be. You pay me tens of thousands of dollars privately. You certainly can. And you can DM me if you're interested in those services. But get some sort of support. It can be a book. Coming Back to Life is here for you and there's an audio version. It can be a podcast, but get support, pick your mentor and become a next level version of you that right now you don't know. Rebecca Silence. I designed. I wasn't born this version of me. All the best of me was already in there. But it's time for you to design yourself so you can design your life.
She is the world's leading love and emotional healing coach. She is Rebecca Silence. Theunsilentwoman. Com. Absolutely incredible stuff on a Mental Wellness Wednesday. Great stuff. We'll talk to you next week.
