Rebeccah SilenceWorlds Leading Love & Emotional Healing Coach • Speaker • Author • Creator of The Unsilent Woman

Punishment and Reward Cycles in Relationships

29 Jul 2023 · 1 min

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Short monologue (YouTube video) examining how people shift from acting from authentic selfhood to performing for others’ approval — framing relational dynamics as conditional reward/punishment cycles that erode mutual authenticity and contribute to relationship breakdowns.

When you do what I want, when you're who I want, I'll reward you. And we train ourselves. When I've done enough, when I've been enough, when I've achieved enough, when I've showed up correctly in your eyes, you are going to reward me. So it stops being about me, following my own aligned, authentic truth and more about who do I need to be for you and who do you need to be for me? And we wonder why most relationships end.