Rebeccah Silence explains how saying yes when you mean no leads to self-abandonment and emotional overwhelm. She suggests pausing before you commit to anything, and only agreeing when it genuinely aligns with your own needs. This creates healthier boundaries and emotional freedom.
Sometimes what's emotionally overwhelming us is other people's emotional dysregulation.
So it isn't even just my emotional distress that can be the problem. I can be dysregulated because I don't know how to stay regulated when you're dysregulated. Oh, that's so good. Right?
Or you could just confuse me and I just say, you won, and I stop.
But that's what a lot of people do, which is another way to escape. And then your truth got denied and you get resentful.
Yeah. I wanna talk about honoring yourself instead of abandoning, abandoning yourself.
Yes. I want you to think about it like this. Everything is a spiritual yes please or a spiritual no thank you. So when you say yes when you mean no, that is self-abandonment. Just let's keep it simple. So the one thing you can do right now, mindset-wise and emotional freedom-wise, is stop saying yes when you mean no. Part of the problem is you don't know what the right yes would be, but you can just say, I'm gonna get back to you.
Yeah.
Don't agree when it actually isn't something that honors, respects, or takes care of you. Take time, figure out what the yes is, and only say yes when you mean yes. It's hard.
When you're a people pleaser though, 'cause you wanna make sure you're like—
Stop saying yes to being a people pleaser. Yeah. Yeah, there you go. You can change your mind right now. Thank you, Rebeccah. I feel like I need to lay down.
