Rebeccah Silence argues that high-performing women who hide their vulnerability miss a business advantage. When leaders show their authentic heart, they attract the right clients and repel those who don't value them. Self-advocacy and emotional openness aren't risks; they're what let you claim fair pay and freedom.
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Vulnerability in business is your freaking superpower. If they can't feel your heart, they won't buy from you. So if you are suffocating your heart, your truth, your vulnerable self, how much you love, how much you care, because you're afraid it would be too much, we can flip that into my vulnerability is going to repel the people that don't deserve me or my gifts, and it's going to call in the ones that are ready for what I was born to do. You all have a yield difference you were born to make.
High professional women here with high-functioning jobs who are running businesses, who are taking care of families and raising families and showing up like everything is fine. Why is it so hard for us to have these honest conversations, especially at that level?
So my last name is Silence for a reason, because I married a guy with the last name Silence, because I grew up—
don't rock the boat, shut up, don't upset anybody.
But we have to know how to advocate for ourselves, and we have to know how to let people know who the hell they're actually dealing with. And you can't do that if you don't say This is what I need. This is what I want. This is how I feel. You have to be able to be willing to risk it. Here's who I am. Here's what I want. Here's what I need. Here's how I feel.
And then all you get is information about who wants to love you back.
And if they don't, it's their loss.
And peace. Alright! Rebeccah Silence, thank you!
You're doing enough. And you don't have to just be more grateful. We need you to be more of the truth of who you are. Depression is the part we have control over. It's not our fault, but it's our work. It's us depressing our emotions. Our desires, our truth, our needs. And you don't need to prove yourself with achievement to have a right to take up space or to get paid really well. You're valuable just because you breathe. And when you learn how to honor your own humanity, you get to learn how to be free.
