Rebeccah SilenceWorlds Leading Love & Emotional Healing Coach • Speaker • Author • Creator of The Unsilent Woman

What Are the Signs Someone Isn’t a Good Fit forYou?

23 Feb 2023 · 1 min

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Short YouTube monologue (Rebeccah Silence) arguing that the primary sign someone isn’t a good fit is fundamental value clashes—examples include disagreement over monogamy vs polyamory, religion, wanting children, or differing beliefs about codependence; such clashes are presented as typically irreconcilable.

So what are the signs as you're dating that this person is not a good fit for you? I'm going to make this super, super, super simple. Here's the one thing I want you to consider that would definitely mean this relationship is likely not a good fit. Okay? When there are value clashes, when there's dissonance in values. So, for example, one person wants monogamy, one person wants a polyamorous. It's that or religious issues. Or one person wants kids, and one person doesn't. When it comes to values, if there's a big, big, big clash in the vision that you've got for your life, maybe it's this person thinks codependent love is the way of love, and this person doesn't want a codependent relationship. Whatever it is, if there's a value clash, you're not going to solve it.