Rebeccah Silence tells generational healers that vision alone won't break family patterns. She had a 4.0 in counseling but ended up in a domestic-violence marriage like her mother's until she did the emotional work. Now she's in a healed marriage, built a two-decade business, and achieved financial success by being the first to do it.
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Raise your hand if you identify as a generational trauma healer in your family. Okay, about a third of you. Did you growing up imagine more and better for your family? Mm-hmm. Right, so what the generational healer does is they see for the family more than anybody in the family has ever had. And it doesn't mean they're not amazing and they haven't done amazing things. But when you see, oh, that's possible, what I want you to know is even if it hasn't happened in your family yet, you see it because you have the power to create it. If you have a vision, you have what it takes. You just have to be brave and emotionally healed, or there isn't a chance in hell you're gonna get across the finish line you see for yourself. So the generational trauma healer might know, okay, it's possible to have a million dollar year in my business, but if nobody in her family has ever done that before, it feels pretty insurmountable for her, even if she gets essentially it's possible. That's it. Simple. Not easy. You don't have to heal that all. That would be impossible. You can't live that. How much time and energy have you spent hoping you can be enough, you can do enough, so that somebody else's emotional well-being gets better, so that your emotional well-being can get better? Understanding trauma isn't enough to heal it. What is required is emotional healing. I have a 4.0 grade point average in my master's degree in counseling, And I realize I'm in the middle of a domestic violence marriage, just like my childhood, and I really had no idea. I think it's really good news when I recognize the limitations of my family aren't mine unless I keep subscribing to, "That's the ceiling, I don't get to shatter." So the second marriage, it is hot, healed, healthy. Did you know you can have all three? I got the most amazing husband, he loves me so well. I'm extremely well paid. I'm extremely in love with my business of over 2 decades. So all the generational trauma healer's job is, is to go first. That's it. And create what nobody else in the family has ever created.
