Rebeccah Silence says most people divorce to escape painful patterns, not because they want out. Without healing childhood wounds like feeling disrespected or betrayed, you'll repeat the same conflicts in your next relationship. Divorce alone won't fix it.
95% of people that get divorced, statistically— CNN did a study on this— didn't want to get divorced. That's just the only thing they saw as possible or the way out, and then they took their patterns with them.
A lot of times when a divorce gets ugly, it's, they did this, they did that. It's a blame thing, and it's not necessarily them looking at people, looking at themselves.
We all experience relationship the way we felt and experienced love growing up with our families. Maybe your primary trigger is you feel disrespected or unappreciated or unwanted or betrayed. Because if I feel disrespected and now I'm blaming you for that instead of seeing essentially I'm a vibrational match for this wound until and unless we heal— so the divorce is ugly because you're playing out unhealed wounds and patterns from your childhood. So I can have an ugly divorce and kick you to the curb and I'm gonna take my power back by taking all your money or cheating on you or whatever it is. But you have to do the work to break through the pattern that is creating this experience like it's Groundhog Day, and the cheese will move and it'll just be whack-a-mole in your life. You can get divorced, that isn't gonna solve the problem. So the other person is never the problem. Doesn't mean they're not behaving terribly, but they're not creating what's going on inside of you. So if the divorce has gotten ugly, you are fighting with the ghosts of your past and you have a pattern to heal or several that you don't wanna take with you. And you maybe will say, yeah, but I'm gonna be celibate for the rest of my life after this, Rebeccah. It's just not even worth it. Well, then you'll play out the patterns with your boss, with your team, with your clients, with your friends, with the new person you met at a mastermind. I am telling you, the patterns repeat, the patterns repeat, the patterns repeat until they heal. So DM me and let's get you clear and healed and you staying the best of you and committing to, I'm not gonna be ugly and I'm gonna heal whatever comes up for me on this divorce journey So I don't take it with me or pass it on to my kids.
